4 Things To Tell Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back again

Terms play a great part in building or destroying a relationship. If a guy wants to win his ex girlfriend back, phrases can be the greatest weapon. Every word you say to i den forbindelse will matter if you are looking to get your girlfriend back. Knowing the right words to say is good but knowing the right phrases and the perfect way to say all of them is better.

If you cannot stand the idea of losing your ex girlfriend forever, here are some things must say to your ex partner to win her back quickly.

The very first thing To state To really get your Ex-girlfriend Back Is actually “ Sorry”

Swallow your pride this time and set apart your ego for a while. Recognize your mistakes and apologise for it. Keep in mind guys, girls never wish to be accused of something that ruined the connection so do excuse them for everything. Focus on your shortcomings and say i am sorry for it instead.

Once you apologize to her, act as sincere about this. As soon as she saw your sincerity, she is going to believe that you really are sorry for that things you did. Next, pay attention to her sentiments. Try to understand where she’ s coming from and speak with her about this.

“ Inde i Skip You”

Missing someone is tough. Once you miss your ex girlfriend so much, attempt to express your feelings to her. Say it in a cool as well as casual manner but at the same time lovely and romantic. She probably feels the same way too.

When a guy says people words to an ex, it shows exactly how he cherishes as well as yearns for the company from the girl. Saying it first to your ex will also prove how you always think about her as well as the things you do together. Once again, do not be afraid that will degrade your ego. Your ex partner is more important than your actual satisfaction.

Saying She Is Your Every thing

Terms cannot describe the feeling of a girl who hears which she means the world to a man. If you inform your ex girlfriend how important she is in your life with certainty, she will have got pools of emotions. Her love for you will be ignited again for the second time.

Let your ex girlfriend feel how she means to you despite the fact that you’ re not together anymore. It will let her think of choice she has created. The moment you ask her out again, there is a greater possibility that she will agree.

“ I Love You”

The term “ love” is an extremely powerful word. Saying “ I really like you” to some person you really love is much, much stronger. Even though the phrase is so overused, it might still melt a girl’ s heart.

Telling your ex girlfriend that you simply love her and can always will is the best method to get her back again. However , make sure to accompany your words with activities. Your statement will be void prefer to not let her feel your really like through your activities.

239 Responses to “4 Things To Tell Get Your Ex-girlfriend Back again”

  • heavenly sword:

    My ex broke up with me a month and 2 weeks ago. She still says its because she really doesn’t want a bf because she doesn’t want to get hurt or cheated on which I wud never do and I told her that but she doesn’t believe me. I haven’t talked to her for a week and a week ago she said she really likes me and still has feelings for me but just doesn’t want a bf. now after these 4 days she has been liking my best friends status everyday he has been posting something and she usually never likes his status and she texted me first yesterday after a week of no talking. She knows he has a gf. I still want her back tho so I may wait for her until summer to see if she wants to try it again but idk if she will? What is she doing??? HELP

  • krow147:

    I got in a relationship with a girl for about 4 months, fell bad for this girl, so did she for me. Problem, she went back to her old lifestyle 6 moths after getting out of (3 years in prison) sales. At the time when she was off the hook she didn’t want me around her because she didn’t want me getting in trouble (arrested) she got arrested and did time for 1 year flat, i promised to wait for her, not one call did i ignore from her. Visit her every week, 2 times a week most of the time, She promised to do good when she got out i rented a studio for us ready to move in as soon as she got out. Things went well but then she went back to her old lifestyle again, gambling, she got arrested for petty theft and go sided luckily but missed her court to avoid getting arrested from this point on she couldn’t stay with me because she was now on the run due to her parole officer checking on her she said she would turn her self in, the longer she was on the run for the more distant she was from me, i suspected it was because of her drug use (meth and ghb) almost 4 months pass and im living in a new spot now she comes to me and we make love, im thinking ok shes ganna do good now?. No, she leaves and doesnt come back for the whole night, she hasnt changed. Ok i now her problem with gambling is really really bad (since i met her), and shes on drugs ive tried to help her she was using behind my back. Sadly ): soon after this i get a call from county jail, shes now doing a few months. I visited her on Friday and she said she had something to tell me but she didnt want me to hate her (her crying) i begged her to please tell me i had a gut feeling she didnt want to tell me but finally 15 minutes before my visit ended she told me that she had a pap smear in jail and nurse told her she was pregnant. That her world came crashing down and how sorry she was for cheating on me, that she was on GHB. Who knows what else really… telling me i deserve better, shes always said that. I stuck around because i’m deeply in love with her and i have faith that she can change her lifestyle. I’m really hurt. She says this baby is ganna help her change her lifestyle, that she needs to learn to be a mom ( she has a 10 year old boy who lives with her mom, because of her going in and out of jail) i really hope that this baby brings her all the joy and happiness, she deserves the best, i love her but everyday that goes buy this pain keeps hurting me more and more the more i think about it, i adore her and care for her so much. She says shes going to be a single mom and get her shit together. How do i deal with this pain? I love her and to raise the baby with her would be the most beautiful thing to me from the heart. I need advice on this, like i told her. What do i do? Stop Loving You? This is hurting me a lot, my ex girlfriend did the same to me i was with her for 5 years but i didn’t lover her as much as my current girlfriend because as soon as i found out she was talking to a dude (which later resulted to get her pregnant) i left her ass and did not want anything to do with her, wished her the best. But this girl right here she has my all, i love her i need some help, anybody?

  • Andrew S:

    my question is this ? they owe me $ 300.00 and I live in wayne township Indiana.

    how do I collect the judgment ?

    I want to garnish their wages how do I go about doing this ?

  • apleaforbrandon:

    Basically its such a long story, but my boyfriend was with his ex girlfriend for 4 years on and off and they had a baby together. i met him when we both started working together and i saw first hand the arguments that they had and the break ups the went throuhg. anyways about 7 months ago, he decided to end it for good and lets just say she didnt take it very well.
    she then automatically assumed that me and him were together, she started stalking me, showing up at my house 2 in the morning, shes assaulted me, she used to ring and text me constantly. she basically has a really sour taste towards me.
    because of all the stuff she did and made even my best friends believe that i was the one that ruined their relationship, i didnt have anyone who i could turn and talk to, so i went to the guy, (we’ll just call him ryan). i cried to him and we spoke loads because i couldnt deal with what she was doing, she was waiting nearly everyday outside my work waiting for me to either finish or go on lunch…it just got so bad.

    anyways, few months went on and me and ryan started to become closer than maybe i had anticipated at the start and well we ended up seeing each other.
    i know that maybe that was wrong of me, but i have grown to fall in love with him and he has with me.

    he stopped seeing his baby for a month or two no matter how much i tried to get him to see the baby, he didnt want to because of her and how crazy she had become. i have now had to go to the police to get a harrasment and assault charge against her.

    couple weeks passed and i finally managed to make ryan see sense and he wants to see his baby now, which is really good, i would never try and stop him at all, the only issues im having now is how i cope with her. (this might sound pathetic) but shes posting all over his facebook, things like cant believe its been a year best days of our lives, cant wait to see you…kinda flauting it in my face because she is trying to get a reaction out of me. i have tried for so long to hold it all back. she wont let him see the baby without her being there all the time. shes always told me i will always love him and he will come back to me and stuff and its hard….really really hard.

    so i guess basically what im asking is, what do i do? i love him so much but i think maybe if i carry on like this im going to make myself ill…really need someones advice and i dont have a lot of people who i can talk to about it…what do i do?

  • tjpimpin:

    I was bored, So I told my friend that I was going to use a Ouija Board. She told me not to do it, over and over and over. She said Her mom said that she’s seem ghosts since she was 8 years old because of that game. I was like “Okay” and still played it. I just played it online. So, She keeps telling me not to play it while I play it, and I’m just like “mhm, okay”

    So, I ask as a beginning question “Will Emilia ask me out?” (Emilia is my best friend) and It doesn’t actually answer. It just gives me this loooong string of words. I didn’t think anything of it until I started to realize most of the words being spelled out were actually really significant. Like “Look within” or “Burned” or “Lost” or “Hit” But like, I thought “Okay, This is a bunch of **** designed to scare people” but then, I played it again. These are the signifgant words:
    “Clairvoyance”, “Seer”, “Divination”, and “Lexi”

    The reason why these words are really significant to me is because like, A Seer is a wise person, or a person who observes. Which I would think is sort of like a wallflower, Which is what my best friend calls me all the time. A wallflower sees things, and they understand. But that’s not even the weird part. The word “Clairvoyance” means: Quick, Intuitive knowledge of things and people.

    Ever since I was a little kid, I have always been able to give advice about anything. But the thing is, I can guess things about people without them telling me or anything. I just know things about people. It’s like automatic. I know this sounds really stupid. But it seems really crazy because people have always come to me for advice, even when I was 3-4 years old.

    The reason why “Burned”, “Lost” and “Hit” are significant is because My best friends ex-girlfriend was burned when she was little. “Lost” is because today I gave my best friend advice and said that she wasn’t a bad person. She was simply lost, and didn’t know who she was without the baggage of her abuse. Which brings me to “Hit” She was abused when she was little, Sexually, emotionally, and domestically.

    The weirdest part is what it took out of me. As I played with it, My head began to pound, my stomach started to really hurt, and I could hardly see straight. I almost threw up, which is REALLY weird because I haven’t thrown up since I was 8 years old. I’m 13 now. What do you think this all means?

  • josh12rox:

    Remember when during the first few hours after the shooting police and media were informing of a girlfriend or ex-girlfriend and a friend of Ryan Lanza missing in Hoboken. And even the chief of police (or whichever his title is) in Connecticut said that police in Hoboken, N.J. were tending to a developing situation there?

    By now everyone knows that the shooter was the younger brother, Adam, but how did the missing or supposed missing people fit into any of this?

  • sethburger:

    My boyfriend is trying to create a legal contract with his ex-girlfriend. She had a baby and claims it’s his but denies doing a DNA test. She will be going to child support because of insurance being canceled on the baby. He already agreed to giving her $125.00 a month to pay for some things and he takes her to doctors appointments. He is trying to do the right thing but she is just extremely hard to please and nothing is ever good enough for her. We just want to create a legal contract between them stating that:

    1. they both agree to him giving her 125 a month for 18 years
    2. she willingly had sex with him the time she got pregnant. (her dad will be trying to get him put in jail for “rape” because she was underage when she got pregnant and he’s over 18.)
    3. He will get receipts for everything his money pays for. (to make sure she doesn’t spend the money on herself because she is known for doing that.)
    4. That she found out she was pregnant a month after they broke up and he started dating me. (she keeps trying to make him seem like the bad guy for leaving when he found out she was pregnant, which is not the case.)

  • Jason M:

    My ex gf ended our relationship 4 mths ago. She was suffering from depression at the time but was sure she wanted to end things as “her feelings changed”. I said to her she shouldn’t be making such a big decision when she was down but it was what she wanted.

    She has a history of depression since a teenager.

    We are now back in touch. There is a chance we may get back together. We both clearly still have feelings for each other.

    Her Dr has now told her she doesn’t need to take the prozac anymore. She is gradually coming off it.

    What should I expect from her coming off it? Any experiences of this?

    I know there is a chance that at somepoint she may be depressed again. What signs do I look out for??

  • lcollier93sbcglobalnet:

    I would really be interested to know – I’m already short and poor, so how can I make myself completely repulsive?

    (a classic take on a classic question? Let me know).

  • callofduty5123412:

    How can I start one? What if the conversation suddenly stops? Do I start another one?

    I’m usually quiet, so would it be a good idea to start actually talking and being loud just out of nowhere? Wouldn’t that make me look like a poseur?

    My Grandparents have told me I’ll just have to jump in on conversations sometimes. What if I have nothing to say on the subject?

    And, What do you say when you’re in the restroom and someone knocks?

  • Cliffy N:

    My ex girlfriend’s boyfriend wants to take my daughter to Disney World and my daughter really wants to go she is 5 my ex and her boyfriend have been dating for 2 years they will be planning on getting married soon. Should I allow this? I won’t be able to take her I have work my ex also have work I trust this guy he seems nice he knew her since she was 3. I don’t talk to my parents anymore I have nobody else to take her he asked for my permission I told her that I’ll think about it.

  • mr flibble:

    Recently my ex girlfriend and I went away for the weekend. We slept in the same bed but no sex. Kinda weird, just friends stuff, so it sucked. But she wanted to go to a strip club with me. But there really aren’t any downtown where we were. I really want to get back with her, but what does this mean? She never suggested that while we were dating for over 3 years.

  • che-che:

    What is the most effective way to get your ex girlfriend back from current boyfriend?

  • XplicitzZ:

    All three know what our past was…!! But still I can’t behave normally with her…I hesitate to talk with her..n i don’t want to break my relationship with my best friend…so how can you manage relations, when your ex girlfriend is your best friends current girlfriend?

  • liza:

    I’m 18. I’ve always been super disciplined. I’ve never had a sip of alcohol, have a 4.0, am going to a great college, etc. I hang out with people who aren’t like me, But it’s because I enjoy their company ad they truly are great people. We understand each other.
    So, I met a guy. He’s 20. I really really like him. I see him beyond what most of society does… Like just because he has bad clothes and doesn’t come from a wealthy family or hasn’t gotten straight-a’s doesn’t make him any less equal than us. He isn’t a bad guy, super sweet… With some bad habits. He does some bad things. Like smoking, has done drugs, etc. I just really like him and he likes me though. Why can’t I just go for it? As long as I keep my brain and promise to stay true to myself and what I beleive, why can’t I date him? Maybe he just needs someone, someone to show him what it’s like. He’s a great guy, and it would tear me apart to say goodbye to him without giving it a fair shot, even though he does do drugs. Maybe he’ll stop eventually.. He isn’t addicted. He does it occasionally. What to do? Follow my heart and take my brain?

  • Mak Sultan:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • Keegan:

    In the end of my relationship my ex girlfriend humiliated me, ignored me and disrespected me.

    But unfortunately I could not forget her. There’s a lot of feelings.

    But I know that I would not be with her again.

    what can I do to a person that humiliated me?

  • Jonathan:

    Why is that?
    Has this happened to you?
    Do you know someone like this?

  • Ray D:

    About 3-4 weeks ago, my girlfriend of 11 months broke up with me. In the last few months of our relationship, I suffered a lot and realized that we would eventually be separated. Because of that, I completely stopped hoping about getting back. The break up was pretty painful during the first week, as it’s supposed to be of course. Only one week after, I started getting over her pretty fast to my surprise. Everyday I was thinking about her, but it was getting better and better and I thought I’d get over her in about a month or so.
    But just like 2 days ago, I started feeling so empty again. I still don’t want to get back with her at all, but I simply miss her and I just don’t understand why. I didn’t even see or talk to her since the break up.
    I was so sure that things would only go uphill after 3 weeks, but i was so wrong.
    Please help me understand why.

  • dubmecrazy3:

    I dated this guy for awhile on and off then we had a tiny thing in oct but ended it on Halloween. Now he has a girlfriend and we talk mostly everyday and I call him my bestfriend. But I kinda like him still but friends are better then nothing. He just always talks to me first so I talk to him.

    Anyways are you good friends with any of your Exs? And do you guys still like each other secretly ? And do you think it’s weird to become friends after you ended things?

  • unbleevable39:

    I know this looks a little long, but that is because I am showing some short texts. I met this girl on a dating site 3 WEEKS ago, she added me on there and we typed to each other on the instant messaging thing on the site. We are both 25 years old. After about a week she wanted to speak on the phone, and she phoned me and we spoke for 8 hours non stop until the morning. We have been talking on the phone for roughly 2 WEEKS now, (according to her shift, she works for the police, ) , she phones me nearly every night and our chats always last between 6 to 8 hours, through the night and until the morning. We talk about our interests, our lives, random things, etc. She told me she likes me a lot, that I am a gentleman, and not sleazy, etc. She had just been SEVERELY heartbroken by her ex, 4 months ago, because he was continually stealing money via her credit card, and at the same time was cheating on her with his ex girlfriend behind her back. She said this left her feeling so heartbroken, that it took her a while to get over it, She said to me that she wasn’t sure of this dating site thing.. The last 6 hour chat we had just 3 days ago, she brought up the subject about meeting, and said even if we went for a walk together first, and said that she was as nervous as I was about meeting in person, but I wanted to wait a month and she said this freaked her out because she thinks she is the issue. She texted me the next afternoon (3 days ago) asking how I was, but when I replied, she never texted me again that day. So I didn’t contact her for the last 3 days, for fear I had upset her and waited to see if she would text me. This morning she sent me this text saying exactly this :

    “Sooo…….. Michael, what have I done wrong?”

    I replied and here is the following shirt text convo, I would really like opinions as to what she was thinking or feeling as she wrote them, as I have wrote them here exactly as they are in my phone.

    Me: “You absolutely haven’t done anything wrong. I thought I must have done something in my last text, so I didn’t know whether to text you or not”

    Helen: “What last text?? I last text you and you didn’t reply, lol. why didn’t you ask if you thought I ‘d did something wrong?”

    Me: “Helen, I was about to send you a long message on Oasis, but was contemplating it” (I wrote out a heartfelt message the night before, and wanted to send it to her)

    Helen: “Okey, no worries anyway”

    Me: “No worries? Whats wrong? What have I done wrong?”

    Helen: “Nothing except not talk to me for a few days, which is probably normal… just odd, because we were talking everyday”

    Me: “I’ll send you the message”

    Helen: “No don’t worry, it’s okay now”

    Me: “Why? lol”

    Helen: “Cos I’ve text you, or do you mean you are writing now?”

    Me” Maybe I should read it out to you…. but the reason I wanted to send it is because of how lovely you have been to me”

    Helenl: “I’m so lovely, that you ignored me, lol, send it if you want”

    Me: “I think I know why you didn’t want to talk to me anymore, . Helen I am so sorry”

    Helen “What, why?” (I didn’t reply to that, but instead wrote wrote the following, out of panic)

    Me: ” I have just sent you the message from Oasis. I wrote it yesterday morning, and it came from my heart” (I sent her the heartfelt message on the dating site, then immediately deleted my account, she would have got a notification on the site that I have been removed from her contacts)
    Helen “And then you deleted me!!! Okay, I am so confused by you, you ignore me, then delete me, lol, so I’ll leave you be”

    Me: “I deleted my account Helen, not you. There is no need to break my heart in such an intense time”

    Helen “What, I am so , so confused”

    I asked her to phone me, even if it was for 5 minutes and she did. We had a proper chat about it, she sounded quiet and said this was the first time she had been lost for words while talking to me. We had a bit of a giggle, and spoke about the whole thing. She then said she had to go as she had messed up her dinner she tried to make, she sounded down when she said this

    She then sent the following text :”And now I can’t see your pics any more :( x ”

    We texted each other a bit more, then said good night to each other

    The day after she sent this text “Hey Michael, how are you today? x x”

    I can’t reply until later, when I get topped up

    How do her texts look to you? What do you think she was feeling or thinking? I really like this girl, and don’t want to lose her, and we wasn’t talking for long and I am really scared she will forget about me. Is two weeks long enough for me to have made some sort of impact on her?

  • nyyankees1123:

    I bought my now ex girlfriend a dirt bike for her birthday. It is in my name and still being financed. I am afraid that I might be held liable if someone gets hurt while in her possession. How can I go about getting it back? She will not return phone calls, texts or emails. I do not want to make a huge deal, but she is not willing to be an adult and work it out with me.

  • musicistabest:

    My ex girlfriend whom I love very much still left to go to California this morning..

    Before she left I made sure I saw her, we first met up 3-4 nights ago and it was nice, it was just fun and easy going, and then towards the end of the night I gave her a ring that she loved and I told her I loved her still…she said she just couldn’t come back to right now

    Then the next few days I told her if she wanted to stay here instead of going to Cali that I would buy an apartment and take care of her and that I loved her very much still

    We met up last night and it was just casual again, I knew she wasn’t going to stay and so I told her I was happy for her whatever she decided to do and it was nice to see her again…we hugged goodbye and then later i txt her that i wanted her to keep the ring to remember me and that i loved her…and she responded that she would cherish and keep the ring forever

    I’m really happy now, I think maybe it was a good thing that she moved away…do you think I did the right thing?

    She originally left me because she was losing feelings and didn’t know why, I feel like one day she will realize how foolish of her it was to leave me, i get that sence by the way she looks at me and things she says

  • SKATEskum:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me after months of dating, but unfortunately, she didn’t give me the respect of actually being faithful. I did everything for this girl and she treats me like that by cheating on me with 6 different guys behind my back. Instead of destroying her car and making her life a living hell, I just want to listen to some music that’ll help me get over her. Any ideas?
    I’m also a big rock fan

  • Milk84:

    Hello, I have a story for you about me and my ex-girlfriend. I’m to emotional to think and I need someones advice about whether or not this is even worth fighting for or if there is even any chance of us getting back together. I’ll try to keep it brief:

    We met 2 years ago. I was 17 and she was 15. She wasn’t like all the other girl, and I wasn’t like all the other guys at age 17. I was pretty mature for my age, I was 17 years old but thought like a 30 year old man, I wasn’t childish and such things. When I met her, she seemed like something different, a different girl that all the others, so I said to myself I’ll try this out we’ll see what happens. We live in a quite small country, she lived 100km away from me. For those of you that had distant relationships, you can probably say that’s not that far apart. And it really wasn’t. After a month or so of texting she said she has feelings for me and I felt the same. The problem occurred, when another guy that was leaving close to her started hitting on her. She wanted me but the distance got her ”scared” of the future so she actually went with that guy and left me. She broke my heart but after a month or so, I write to her to see how she’s doing and she says she made a mistake, that she’s sorry and that she’ll leave that guy for me. Since we never actually met in person yet, I said fine, It wasn’t really a breakup, so I told her to break up with the guy and let’s try this again. She did and we did. In March, 4 months after we first wrote to each other, we finally met in person. It was amazing, a really wonderful feeling, we were both just, flying with love. Our first kiss happened that day, and we went to a restaurant together and such things. At the end of the day, we were kissing so much I missed my first train back to my town. Anyway, this relationship started grow, and it went on and on and on. We had some fights here and there but nothing major. We were really one of those couples that you’d think would stay together for ever. And I know I am only 19 now and it’s really stupid to believe that, but if you’d see us, you’d believe it too. Anyway, after 1 year and a little less then a half of dating we had a decision to do. You see, her parents were divorced and she lived with her dad. I lived with my dad too, and I was just about to finish high school. So now I had to choose where to go to College. I had an option to go to a college in the Capital City of our country. Her mom, on the other hand, lived next to the Capital City, so it would be a perfect way for us to finally be close to each other. Well the College, backfired. I was accepted, but there were money problems and I was really scared I’d fail there, because if I would, my dad would rage since all of the money for the College would go to nothing, and it was a new city and I wasn’t prepared for it. I made a mistake and I decided to stay in my City. When school started, she acted different and not even a month after the first day of school, she told me that she thinks we should break up. That I need to find myself, and that she owes me some sort of apology because she kinda ”used” me to get in a state where she is happy all the time, and now she’s leaving me. We still saw each other during this month but when I was home and we wrote to each other, she was different. So she left me through an email and I collapsed. The pain was the worst. You think something will last forever and it just gets destroyed like that. Especially when you know you were ”kinda” the cause of it. So I wrote to her a lot and she ignored me. Then I backed off for a few or so, and wrote her again that I miss her. She wrote back, (I miss you too, but not yet, not yet .. ). The we talked to each other, she said that she want’s us to stay friends. I said I can’t and she couldn’t figure out why, she kept asking why can’t I stay friends. After we finished talking, I didn’t call or text her for another week. I got stronger, I found new things that make me happy and I was generally OK. Then I wrote to her, that I moved on, and I’m throwing all of her stuff away. I also told her that I hope she finds happiness with the other guy because it really seemed like she had someone else. But it could be just my head messing with me, that was probably it. So she wrote back (I don’t have another guy :/). Then we started texting a bit again and she actually said that she is confused. That she is afraid of wanting me back and such. It seems that she really want’s to stay friends now and text like we usually do, and here is where I don’t know what the fuck should I do. Can someone please help decide. What’s going on, and what is the best thing for me to do.

    Thank you all!

  • LN13:

    So about a year ago I started dating this guy. He was my first and he was amazing at first. One month into our relationship I found out he started dating his ex girlfriend again. So he pretty much was dating two girls. When I confronted him he said he didn’t know who he wanted but all in reality he wanted to be with his ex girlfriend. He never made our relationship public and he would get mad if I posted things our his fb wall. so three weeks after we broke up he started posting pictures of him & and his gf and he had cute fb statuses about her. I WAS HEARTBROKEN, I felt unworthy. I felt like I wasn’t good enough. I cried all the time. I felt used. I felt like a rebound chick. So in July, he called me four months later saying he wanted to “hang” out. So I went to his house and STUPID ME I had sex with him again. He told me he wasn’t seeing his gf anymore and that she’s crazy and that he misses me a lot. The sex was so different this time around. It was painful and rough and after sex he told me I’ll never find someone cuter than him and someone who would F**k me this well. After going to meet up with him we talked for two days and then he just stopped calling and texting me and we haven’t spoke since. It’s been six months. I went on his twitter a few months ago and found him and his ex are back together. NO SURPRISE THERE!In my mind I thought I was over him so I started dating another man (who has always been my crush) we’ve been dating for two months now. But I still think about my ex and I still want him back! stupid of me right? I don’t know why! I want to be over him already! it’s about to be a year. I know for a fact he’s over me Clearly but UGH.

  • Oilers:

    We started as classmates, both 39.YO; he gave me rides back and forth home from school every day. After 3 months we became lovers, I been separated the last 4 years but still legally married. He knew this from the beginning because I wanted to be honest. He is divorced, and had a tormenting end with an ex-girlfriend who sent him to jail due to domestic abuse, but he claimed to me that he was innocent and accused unfairly by her because she became jealous of him having a condom at a drawer that someone gave to him, but he didn’t have the intention to use. I trusted him and dated him for almost 5 months with lots of ups and down mainly due my married situation and his supposedly guilt trips. By the month 4 he started blowing hot and cold all the time, reasons he stated was that he didn’t wanted to be seen with a married woman. The things is that no one at school or my classmates knew about this, because my husband lives in another state and I never spoke of him, I had to keep my marriage hidden anyways in order to obtain a student loan so, really I think that his concern was more about keeping his single and non-committed status open for other girls. More than once we broke and started hanging again, until one time asked me just to be friends and not have any intimacy until I didn’t clear my divorce completely. I agreed not gladly but worked things up to give him what he wanted at the end of our program that will be the end of the next week, now he claims he didn’t asked me for that and that he ever promised me commitment!
    At school he used to stalk me everywhere, and control whom I was talking too. Staring at me and getting close to me all the time. I started isolating myself in order to make him happy, and not jealous for me talking to anyone including girls, he claimed that 2 of them were hooking me up with guys out of the school when we simply went for coffee at Starbucks in lunch break and I always respected him. Also gave me a very hard time, because one day I told them that he was driving me nuts with his abusive behavior, one night he pulled my hair at his place due to a jealousy attack. He became very mad and paranoid about being expelled from school for hurting me during class too, but I asked the teacher pls not to do so. I knew it would send him back to the judge or jail again.. He abused me physically emotionally and mentally. I forgave him several times because he has some bipolar and narcissistic traits, I also have emotional dependency problems and I can be very impulsive. I know not a good mix, but I tried so hard working things out, because I felt very strong for him and I thought that if he found a woman very patient and loving, he could feel in a better disposition of improving as a person.
    Worst part was when new classmates joined our program and he replaced me totally with new guys friends, gay’s straight, and started flirting with all the girls in my face, giving his number, inviting them to his place to study, giving them rides home as he used to do with me..etc. just to revenge the friendship that I had with the other girls. Ironically he didn’t want me to hang with anyone and made me feel bad about it but he was the one with such intentions. We started avoiding each other or fighting all the time, then I forgave him by X mass time and gave him nice gifts and a card, We hung at the theater after lunch, hugged and caressed.. I left to my country for vacation and decided to have my divorce paperwork when coming back to see if finally that was the reason why he treated so bad, when I showed him the audience day and the power attorney that I signed so my lawyer can represent me while here, he didn’t care about it, and claimed that he never asked me to do so, and that he wasn’t good with LTR relationships, and he just date for fun and not more than 3 months so he doesn’t become attached. I feel used, played, and broke. Het never tried to call me or answer my calls in 3 weeks while I was in my country and even I emailed or texted every day and sent pics to keep him update.. He accused me that I was laying with guys there too, so he decided to date someone else that I believe is one of our classmates either no one tells me about it, but I suspect of a young Christian girl that he used to admire I asked her but she denied it but Im sure that as he talked terrible to me about his ex in order to hook me up he also told her the worst things about me. He took me for granted all this time so how should I give him a lesson before out program ends next week. Should I get a guy to pick me up school as he was doing with those girls? Should I tell those girls he is a player and warn them that will dump them as soon as he sex them and abuse them? I he can’t go out there as nothing happened damaging more nice women!! ((Even though he claimed not having sex with anyone I found 6 condoms on his truck drawer one day that i took his keys to see I could find something out))

  • easton j:

    My ex-girlfriend keeps showing up at my home and work unannounced. She even committed breaking and entering on my home. What do I do to get her under control and away from me while still trying to maintain distant communication with her?

  • Mark:

    i want some peoples opinions on this……

    how much do you think is TOO much for a 1st date (both physically and conversation wise)

    how about the 2nd, 3rd and 4th???…what do you think is acceptable for those???

  • Hotshot t:

    Ok so this guy and I were good friends for a while. Somehow, I got this huge crush on him along the way ( weve been friends for like 2 years, so Ive liked him for that long.) he was my first love, and I really, really, really liked him. So one day, he got my number from my friend and started texting me. We texted and eventually we ended up texting each other every day and night. He enjoyed waking my up in the morning with his texts and we would talk more at school too. I would open up to him about a lot of stuff and I felt like we were getting closer. I even walked him to his bus and we talked for a while and he asked me what bus I was taking, so he could take the same bus as me. He even asked me if I could stay after school with him in the library to “tutor” him. I got really excited.

    When all this was going on, he texted me ” WYGOWM?” I texted back ” what does that mean?” he replied ” oh you dont know? ok good. never mind, I shouldnt tell you it would ruin something.” eventually I found out what it meant, but he said I was wrong. But i said ” ok thats good my parents wont let me date anyway since im only 15.” he said that was dissapointing because he loved me and was going to ask me out. I told him I liked him too, and ever since, he would be really flirty.

    He knew I couldnt date so instead of actually going out somewhere and dating, he would flirt big time. He flirted a lot more than before and would call me “baby” and say he would “wait for me for 2 years when i can date him”. He and I would talk about what we would do if we did date and where we would go.

    His ex girlfriend is one of my close friends so I felt really guilty. I didnt want to lie to her so I told her. I ended up feeling like an asshole and a jerk but she said it was ok (im sure it killed her though.) She then told me about how its weird because at the same time he asked me out, he flirted with her too, he was saying he and her were “going out” and called her “babe” a lot. He said he liked me for a long time, but I guess not because he asked her out to homecoming too and I didnt know until she told me. I confronted him about it and he panicked. So he texted her “Nice knowing you good bye.” and then he had the nerve to text her ” Hey, your friends mad/sad, what should I say to calm her down?”

    He then texted me “Listen, I dont think we should talk anymore, Im just going to ruin you.” I got hurt and said he really must have not loved me that much and he said “I did, but thats just the way I am.” So apparently, being flirty is “just him.” Later on, he texted me something saying how sorry he is and that he “ruined everything” and that he shouldnt have been such a flirt. Then he said “oops wrong person sorry.” But really, theres no one else he couldve sent it to besides me and my friend, and her name doesnt even start with the same letter as mine, so how could he have possibly messed up when he was choosing the person to send it to?

    Afterwards, I avoided him and he avoided me. I see him glance at me once in a while but we never talk. Later on, I found out he asked out my friend AGAIN. He apologized to her a month later after he and I stopped talking. Apparently, shes been through this whole “im sorry” player flirt thing of his 4 times and keeps going back to him.

    I dont know why, but it still hurts me just to think of him. I wouldnt go back to him even if he started talking to me again, but he was my first love, and most girls dream of their first as someone special. But mine was just a lousy, two timing player. People know Im really nice and I get hurt easily. I told him that, and told him how much I trusted him. He was literally my life, I got excited just from one text from him. I liked him that much and I guess I was just trash to him. And now that hes gone, Im now hurt but I really feel empty. This girl I know started cutting herself because of him, but I dont want to go that far, ever. But still. Its been 2 months and I cant get over him.

    I told my mom about it and she said I should be thankful that at least he has more respect for me than my friend. He asked her out because he knows she’ll say yes. How do I get over it?

  • norrin_shadowwolf:

    I was arrested for aggravated harassment for simply calling my ex girlfriend 4-5 times ( she kept hanging up) to ask her why she made a false statement to the sheriff saying that I abused her in Hawaii this is 7 days after we returned! I am an artist and rent a space in her parking lot & he also told me I had to pack up all my things & move & could not contact her, I stated that she would have to get an eviction notice & told the officer that I never laid a finger on her & that she in fact attacked me & that all I did was run out of the condo to get away from her because she was mega drunk trying to get my cell phone to see if I texted my friends what she had done while wasted. Anyway I had arraignment yesterday was issued an order of protection.

    All this stems from is when we got home from Hawaii and close to my home where she was dropping me off, I broke up with her and told her I never wanted to see or speak to her again! I blocked her from my iPhone & Facebook account, I was done she has been abusing me mentally and physically for 3 years I have ended the relationship a dozen or more times & always felt sorry for her and went back because she is a widow and relentlessly calls & texts also breaking into my home, ( once she was so drunk she tried to get into bed with my father and fell with her pants around her ankles and knocked herself out!) whenever I have broken up with her. She’s done several things like this in the past and is bitter! She is 50 & I just turned 38 she dropped $10,000 on this vacation that she ruined now she is trying to ruin me. all I want is her out of my life!!!!! Any good advice be be helpful, I would like to sue her for defamation in a civil trial and I will not plead a deal with the DA I know she doesn’t have the guts to testify at trial and commit perjury so I’m certain criminal case will be dismissed! Oh one more thing she’s worth 7.5 million

  • timq3dimensionscom:

    this would be my third chance,long story short,i had a problem with smoking,and well it mixed mi mind up of things , and wen i got frusturated i called her things,i said alot of bad things to her,and i told her mi new girlfreind (who was 15,2 years younger then mi ex) is more of a women then her, and now i know i messed up hard,but i want to know how to fix this. we went out all through out middle skool , 4 years together and right after high skool started i left her the first time.3 years later in jr year i got withher again and this is there the drama happend.i really love her alot.and i need sum help getting back with her.i really cant go with another girl.she’s just the love of mi life,we been together for 4 years ,so can eny one give me gewd advise? no stupid things tho

  • Coffee t:

    My girlfriend of two years dumped and less than a week later she starts dating my best friend. That leaves me alone with myself and nobody else because I have no friends other than my once best friend and my ex girlfriend, whom are now dating. What do I do to avoid this feeling of wanting to drive my car off a bridge?

  • Random:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. We recently started talking again and she texts me nonstop now, and she wants to hang out and stuff. Only problem is she has a new guy. I’m still in love with her. The one thing that kills me is I don’t know how she feels about me. I want to tell her how I feel, I don’t even care if she doesn’t feel the same way. I just want her to know. Should I tell her or is it a bad idea?

  • Travoiz:

    I was with her for 5 and a half years….
    and i cant see myself with anyone else, i wanna talk to her and it’s driving me crazy,
    is there anyrules in contacting a ex??

  • Gabriel Kenney:

    After nearly 4 years together, she told me she doesn’t love me anymore.
    I am 21 and she is 20.

    She was honestly my best friend too. We did everything together. Our love was amazing, she meant it so much that I wondered what I did to get so lucky.

    All the times I was with her I never thought she’d be gone. And now that she’s gone I don’t know what to do. In about two weeks I’ve lost 35 pounds, I don’t sleep much, and I don’t find happiness in anything I used to. My friends try to get me to smile, but I just don’t feel it.

    I am seeing her to talk about some things tomorrow, and I feel like that is the last time I’ll ever see her.
    I don’t want that, just that thinking about it makes me feel worse.

    I just want her back, I don’t want anyone else.

    What should I do?

  • Jack Bauer:

    In 2006 I was insulted, slapped and pushed out of my ex girlfriend house, I just wanted my stuff out of her house, not really caring for her as she knew this and explains why she acted this way to me, she slapped me just because I told her I didn’t love her anymore. As I was outside, she allied the police, police come, talk to me and talked to her, next thing I’m being arrested causes he said I pushed her, I’ve never been arrested my entire life. Long story short, we go to court, y attorney forces me to tell the judge I’m guilty, and I’m like , I never did anything wrong, why, he says the judge will only give you a slaps the wrist and you will get supervision, and I’m like, but I don’t even deserve that slap on the wrist as she slapped me in the face. He said since I never had a criminal record, the supervision will go away ..then next thing I getting a court order of protection, to stay away and no calls, which hey, I don’t care, I didn’t want to call her or see her anyways,,no problem. After a 7-8 moths went by, I was stopped by y local police for having my scooter parked on the sidewalk ,,the checked my license then told me I have a warrant, I’m like what!!!! Why, they didn’t know until we got to the police dept…they said I violated a court order, and I’m like what??? How and when?? Hey said I made a phone call then I hanged up,I’m like, I don’t even have her number anymore, and I don’t give a damn about her, it makes no sense…we to court then they said. Violated a court order, and I’m like, I don’t even have or had her number, they said they pulled her phone records and checked…and since then I’ve been amazed and shocked again for being arrested and judged for nothing. Now I have this misdemnour on my record for nothing, and this is now a discharged case and was discharged 2007. Since then, I’ve been having trouble getting a job everywhere else. But in 2009, I applied as a 911 dispatcher for the cicero police.. And they hired me. But come to find out, my daughter alexia says that around 4 months after my first court date, she took my cell and tried to call her friend Jennifer Baxter., but accidentally called my ex Jennifer v. Which I though I erased her number , my daughter tells me that I did erase her number, but I also erased a few of her. Friends off my phone, she needed those numbers and did a memory file setting to recover those numbers, that’s when she called the wrong Jennifer and noticed it when she answered, hen hung up…that’s what really happened, and my daughter being afraid to tell me and thought I would never know, her not knowing about this court order I had…so here I am asking this question, does anyone know if I can remove this record off my file, I have a letter signed from my daughter who is now 1 yrs old about what she did to clear my name., and does any attorney have or can use a lie detector in court to file against my ex for lying in court when she was the one that abused me. I’m sorry m not a very good writer, I try,. And why is it so hard to find a job with a misdemnour

  • liza:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • Scorch Delta-62:

    ….and what things do guys like when girls do, to or for them????

  • Arminator:

    I dated a girl for 3 years, our relationship ended 3 years ago. After our split, she dated someone and moved away. Her and I talked through email every so often. She got engaged this past summer, but after that her relationship went downhill. Her relationship ended in September and she moved back home. The day she moved back home she asked me to get together that night. We got together and had dinner and talked for a while. After that we still talked, but didn’t spend much time together. When Thanksgiving rolled around she asked if I would spend some time with her on the holiday because she felt really weird being alone, even though she has plenty of family. So we got together, I ended up spending some of my Thanksgiving day with her family. After that she wanted to get together as much as possible. I had a 4 day weekend that week and we spent pretty much the whole weekend together. In fact we also spent almost all of last weekend together to. We did a lot of things together, things I consider “couples” do together. (nothing sexual though) She often tells me how much she likes spending time with me, more than other people, but she also tells me that she doesn’t plan on dating for a long time. Now I know that she’s recently out of a relationship, and it came up the other day that I am in the “friend zone” which to me is pretty expected because of the clues she gives off showing she’s not over her ex. So I knew this, but when it was mentioned in conversation it clicked to me that I feel like I’m in a situation where I’m being used. She said no she isn’t using me, yet I am doing a lot of stuff that I would do, and any other guy would do being in a relationship. I told her that I didn’t think we should spend so much time together, I feel like if we continue this path, I will develope feelings for her again (I think I already have) and if it turns out she doesn’t share those feelings later on, then I’ll be hurt. Also in the meantime I’d have feelings for her and I’d be a friend in her eyes, that doesn’t seem like a fair situation. So I told her this and she told me that she doesn’t know how she will feel towards me in the future (obviously). This is where things stand at the moment. I’m a friend right now in her eyes, but she doesn’t know what the future holds. We have a really great time together, we have fun, we laugh, we have chemistry, even as just friends, my family loves her, and my friends say she’s great for me, I know her family loves me, they all told me how happy they were that I was back in this girls life. But this is all up to her, I never really fell out of love with this girl, so I could easily fall back in, right now she’s wrapped up on getting over her ex, and what seems to me is she’s partially using me to fill a void and using me to serve as a distraction. If she were to fall for me again, I don’t want it to be false. So I don’t know what to do in this situation, any suggestions, thoughts, ideas?

  • Travoiz:

    Ok this might be a little long so I apologize for that. Ok, so I had a boyfriend of 4 months until I found out that he was still texting his ex girlfriend. And not just in a friend way. I broke up with him soon afterwards and I spent about a morn and a half just hanging out with my best friends. Everything was going good and I thought I finally got over my ex. But then he spread a bad rumor about me. He said I “bounce from guy to guy” and honestly I don’t. But that time I was lucky nobody believed him. People got mad at him and nobody really talked to him. He apologized about a week ago for that and I forgave him. I talked to him for a bit and we started to become friends again. I thought I liked him again, but at the same time I liked another guy too! I didn’t know what to do, so I told my ex I thought I still had feelings for him. He said he felt the same way. This is where things got bad. He flirted with me for a bit and my “friend” found out and she knew about me liking the other guy too. So she thought I was just using my ex until I could get the other guy. But it wasn’t true. She spread a rumor about me using guys and people believed her, and when we were bes friends I told her tha a few years ago I was a little depressed because I was getting bullied and that I cut myself. She told a lot of people. She said I was cutting for attention and all these people believed her and called be the b word and a skank. All my other friends believe her too and I feel like I hae nobody except my friends who live in another state. I just feel so lonely and I feel I have no way of getting out of this. Maybe it was a mistake to talk to my ex again but I’m sorry I’m not perfect. I just need a way for my other friends to know the truth and not believe what everyone says. :(

  • Rishabh Bajpai:

    It can be emotional or physical. Mine is being ditched by my best friend and mocked in front of everyone.

  • Mc L:

    Hello i need some advice on how to handle my ex girlfriend(that i still have feelings for) talking to someone else in a mature manner….

  • PIE BOY:

    Should i forgive him or what?
    I am in the Army. Back in November 2011 I met this guy who is now my exboyfriend. We met on facebook and we taked so much we became boyfriend and girlfriend on April 2012. He never told me he loved me. I loved him so much and i did so much for him, i’ve always wrote him letters and gifted him with something nice here and there. But he never to me. It was really hard for me to even know how he was truly feeling although he did said he did cared alot for me and would do alot for me. But i really never felt it. I always tried doing whatever i could for him to show him my love for him was real. We did talk about getting married and having our own house. I kinda was the one that paid more when we went out, i drove to his house more then he did to mine. I didnt really felt like a lady while we were together. Back in Dec 2012 he broke up with me, he said he didnt love me and didnt want to continue hurting me. But he did hurt me soo much when he broke up. I was devastated i was depressed and very hurt. 2 weeks later, i told myself how stupid was I to be with someone who coulnt appreciate me, who didnt love me and who didnt do things to show me he cared like i did. I met this guy, very handsome honest and someone who is really amazing, we been talking ever since, he is someone i can joke around with, he is someone who i see myself with, he pays for my stuff when we go to the movies or go eat, i actually felt like a Lady with him. He is very charming and we always have something to talk about. He moved out from texas and came to phoenix 4 months ago. 4 days ago, he received a call from his bestfriend (Male) stating his ex girlfriend was pregnant and he was the dad :’( he has his doubts that he is not and we both were very surprised because we both really wanted to settle down and become something more then just friends in the future. He was what i was looking for and I was what he was looking for. My ex for about 4 weeks has been calling me and txting me emailing me saying he is really sorry and that he wants me back and he realized he truly and genuienly loves me. But i dont know my feelings for him anymore, either because of the new guy or because i just feel so much anger that he hurt me. What do i do, forgive him? even though he hurt me alot emotionally through the relationship and just realizing now that he does love me and all this time he has been a bad person for me and wants to prove me that he is willing to do whatever it takes to make me happy. The new guy might be a dad and I dont know what to think of that he was someone i really liked alot. Should i leave him because of the situation he is going through or should the baby be the reason why we shouldnt be together? Im so confused :’( help!

    Should i forgive my ex and try working things out with the new guy or should i move on? I really like the new guy soo much just that there might be a baby on the way. He is flying to texas to get a DNA test. He knows he will step up and be the dad if he is but will not be with that girl. Is this something that will stop me ?

    I dont really know what my heart tells me :’( i dont know what i feel for my ex but i do like the other guy and my ex and I been talking (When we were together he stressed me out so much just because he made me feel dumb) just talking to him brings those feelings back i dont know maybe i have my guard to high and my heart has a shield and im protecting it before i get hurt again… i dont like to be rude to my ex but im being kinda hard on him even though i dont want to.

    I dont know what my heart wants. IM very confused.

  • jordenkotor:

    Long story short. My ex broke up with me because he lost feelings for me, I got upset and did all the things I shouldn’t of done to win him back, so I lost my chance for him. During all this he was being a cold hearted jerk to me. Like talking behind my back, being two faced, inviting my friends over to parties and personally saying I can’t come and by the way he’s two years older so that makes my friends two years younger, and other mean things. He honestly was an a**hole to me for no reason.

    Then skip to September. He went to college, we didn’t speak till he texted me saying how much he misses me and bla bla. After like 4 weeks he then stopped talking to me and ignored me. So I just decided whatever, I deleted him off Facebook and didnt speak to him. Then a month later he texted me asking why I deleted him and bla bla. I didn’t answer till three weeks later and we talked and I pretty much thought it was a good closure. Annnnd I said hopefully we could be friends one day and he said he’s sure we will be.

    Then skip to last weekend of thanksgiving. He then was off from school, had a party, and once again invited myyyy close friends and told them I couldn’t come. Being a a**hole that he is AGAIN! What is his problem I was nice to him when I texted him?

  • Sriram R:

    My ex broke up with me a month and 2 weeks ago. She still says its because she really doesn’t want a bf because she doesn’t want to get hurt or cheated on which I wud never do and I told her that but she doesn’t believe me. I haven’t talked to her for a week and a week ago she said she really likes me and still has feelings for me but just doesn’t want a bf. now after these 4 days she has been liking my best friends status everyday he has been posting something and she usually never likes his status and she texted me first yesterday after a week of no talking. I still want her back tho so I may wait for her until summer to see if she wants to try it again but idk if she will? What is she doing??? HELP

  • John G:

    How Do I tell my ex girlfriend that I want to get back with her but not in a strait up way, something different?

  • Jeremy Xargor is my gamertag:

    Me and my ex girlfriend broke up like a month ago and we stopped talking for about two weeks then she texted me and is always wanting to know everything going on in my life but doesn’t want to share what’s going on in her.. I still love her but knowing she like another guy and doesn’t have feelings for me anymore hurts and was wondering how I could stop talking to her? I just can’t stop.. Is there something I can do to make it easier?

  • dubmecrazy3:

    Currently dating someone who has a crazy ex girlfriend she constantly calls rides past my bf house and work and sends her family members into my place of work to run their mouth. I am really close to just beating her up but she doesnt come directly at me or say anything directly to me. i dont want to lose my job but I am fed up!!!
    Honestly i just want her to get a life and leave us alone. thats what i mean by get rid of..she is definately not worth my time , my job, or my relationship..but i am only human and i can only take so much.

  • Balla:

    I always see my ex girlfriend at school walking with her new boyfriend!, how can i make her jealous of me, without me getting another gf? Like what should i do that would make her mad?

  • Duke:

    Here is the thing. My ex girlfriend and I have a daughter together and she is pregnant with another baby. There is a possibility of it not being mine because she cheated on me. I am in California and she is in Florida. She says she wants to use our daughter’s dna to see if I am the father of her baby. Can that work and prove it is my baby?

  • Flash Funk:

    Okay so me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for a little over a year, but we still remained friends. We talk and hang out a lot. It’s pretty good except for one thing. I’ve recently started having slight feelings for her again. To be honest I highly doubt that there’s any chance that we’ll get back together. It’s great being friends, but I really thought these feelings were gone after we broke up. Any advice?

  • Ev dog:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • Sonny:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • Nick:

    A few weeks ago my ex girlfriend broke up with me out of the wild blue. She blocked me on Facebook and then when I called her she didn’t answer. When I texted her she texted me back saying that “After much thought she no longer wants continue the relationship. I’m sorry but I just don’t want to continue feeling uncomfortable and we don’t mesh well together” Never heard a single thing from her again except one more text for me to come and pick my belongings on the front porch.

    Leading up to this everything in the relationship was amazing. We got along very well and there was a constant expression of love from each of us. No signs at all that there were any issues and yes I’m very attentive to a woman’s needs with all that I do. She said that i was the greatest thing to have happened in her life and i felt the same. I was the first man out of three that she had dated since divorcing 8 years ago that had ever gotten to a point of meeting her children and family and exchanging house keys. We had lots of future plans and had already spent a week vacation with each other in another state which went really well. Everything she ever said seemed to involve me or lead to the idea that she wanted me in her future because she even went as far as inviting me to go with her on a friends wedding cruise in August of 2013 a week before she broke up with me and she wanted to pay for it. The weekend before the break up I spent Thanksgiving with her family and they all adored me. She bought herself a dress and jewelry to go with the shirt and tie that I bought for a Christmas party that were to attend. I had bought Christmas presents for her 4 children which she knew about and she bought gifts for mine as well. I even bought her some nice gifts too. So here I am now emotionally distraught having bought things for special people that are no longer in my life with Christmas around the corner and not able to share good times with her anymore.

    During our last week together she had a horrible week at work and she became distant and I didn’t get the timely responses to phone calls and texts and she quit responding to my terms of endearment like she used to. That Friday morning she told me that everything was fine and that she was just slammed that week. We carried on with general conversation and then while things were going good she just quit responding in the middle of it. I figured she had just gotten to work and that’s why she quit. But by 5:00pm after no more responses to anything i found that she blocked me on Facebook when she got home and she broke up with me via text with no real explanation as to why exactly

    Now, the other day I noticed that she had unblocked me from Facebook but she didn’t send a friend request. I messaged her and attached all the Thanksgiving pictures that I had taken with my camera of her family. I also told her which pictures were my favorite and that I missed her. She read it but didn’t say thank you or anything. I can’t see her page but we have 1 mutual friend. Our mutual friend let me look at her page last night to catch up and I saw that she either removed or hid all of our pictures together and she deleted comments that I had made on her pictures. It’s as if she just removed me from her life altogether. But I noticed that she had posted a comment in her status while I was online that I am wondering about and would like to know what you think. In her status it said “I have always said, If you don’t know what to do then do nothing and let life decide for you.” A friend of hers then asked if she needs someone to talk to. I’m trying not to get my hopes up and I’m sticking with no contact because I’ve already mentioned to her tactfully in texts about what i feel about her and how she should talk to me about what bothers her . Do you think that she is having second thoughts about her decision to break up with me or am I reading into it too much? What do you think it means given the timing and situation?

  • DuckieM10:

    My girlfriend of 7 months broke up with me yesterday, she said that things were too serious and that we we had different interests. But she wants to be my best friend still. My friends tell me that when she texts me I should be short with her and act like I dont care. Others say i should make her jealous. What can I do to get her back? everyone says time heals everyone, but the problem is she talks to me. So its difficult not to talk to her

  • arronwrath:

    what can i get my ex girlfriend for christmas. we have only recently split up, we have a 7 month year old daughter together. i want to get back with her but shes so down and says she doesnt no if she wants to try again. any ideas what i can get her?

  • Miguel M:

    What are some good comebacks or insults to my boyfriends ex girlfriend? Shes always at parties my boyfriend and I go to and I want to be prepared next time! I want to burnnnn her! Please help!

  • Noe R:

    I just had a conversation with my ex girlfriend and we just came to the conclusion we should be friends and that if its meant to be its meant to be. I feel very good because I really care for her but right now I am very focused on my school. So we had a very intelligent conversation and we pretty much told each other that we need to grow as individuals before we can be together (we both care a lot for each other.)
    She told me she cared about me a lot.

  • Clayton Cottrell:

    What does it mean when a guy keeps nude pictures of his ex girlfriend even though he found a new girlfriend? He told me “they have sentimental value”.

    What reasons would he keep these nude pictures of her?

  • davemc74656:

    I am in a dilemma. My mom doesn’t handle my mental health stuff (mild depression/moderate anxiety) well at all. She claims that there’s nothing wrong with me since I have a great job and function okay in the world.

    I tried to share with her my anxiety/depression/night terrors (that are ruining my sleep and overall functioning) and she was like take some NyQuil, you’re ok. I cannot get into how prevalent or troubling this is. For 6 months now I have been barely waking up on time for work, nap in afternoons due to exhaustion, and wake up at night screaming and shouting as I’m dreaming about being shot multiple times or laying as I bleed to death after a car wreck. My ex girlfriend was scared and weirded out by it as we’d be in bed and I’d start screaming no or make it stop in the middle of the night

    I am in a last resort mode now. I want to be back on my meds for the first time in 4 yrs. My mom doesn’t handle my mental health stuff (mild depression/moderate anxiety) well at all. She claims that there’s nothing wrong with me since I have a great job and function okay in the world. I tried to share with her and she was like take NyQuil, you’re ok. I cannot get into how prevalent or troubling this is. For 6 months now I have been barely waking up on time for work, nap in afternoons due to exhaustion, and wake up at night with this crap.

    I have been trying to find a dr but for many reasons such as patient load/insurance/nature of what I need, I cannot find one other than the 2 she works for who will work with me. I know all about HIPAA, but still it’s uncomfortable to use them knowing she knows when I came and will question me and then get pissy about me getting treatment for it-again, the “you’ve got it all, go for a walk.”

    I have been trying to find a dr but for many reasons such as patient load/insurance/nature of what I need, I cannot find one other than the 2 she works for (She is not in office but processes their paperwork and billing) who will work with me. I know all about HIPAA, but still it’s uncomfortable to use tem knowing she knows when I came and will question me and then get pissy about me getting treatment for it-again, the “you’ve got it all, go for a walk” reaction.

    Advice/suggestions?

  • Sir fliesalot:

    We had been together for 3 years and that’s kinda long relationship. But with an instant the 3 years of being together where we both shared happiness, sadness disappeared because of the 3rd party.
    I don’t know what happened she just broke up with me she did not tell me the reason..What shall i do now? is it possible to winning back your ex girlfriend? or win back your ex even if she has a new man? I need your advise .thanks

  • Ray D:

    im 13 and i broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago,but i still have feelings 4 her, and i found out yesterday and im trying 2 help her cause her is regretting wat happened and is really messed up. what should i do? how could i help her?

  • clntvrrt:

    Which he really love so much. . . But he didn’t marry his ex-girlfriend for trust situation. . .
    I mean the lady cheated him when they’re together.

  • Sonny:

    Starting this new fall semester, a guy poked me on facebook and we starting talking. I didnt know anything about him, but I opened my heart to him and decided to trust him. He told me he dated other girls, but didnt tell me when was his last break up. ( I didnt ask thought ). And I told him I dated a guy 2 years back. Now we are both in our final year at the university. And things from there accelerated. We went out over 60 times in just three months and a half. We had great times. He used to come pick me up from my house and go . He used to pay for me everything, in university we used to meet. Our birthdays were last december, and we both gave each other nice gifts. It was like everybody was jealous of our relationship , because it was so great. However I forgot to say one important thing, After like 3 – 4 weeks of dating, he said he loved me. And I told him its to early for that and he felt kind of upset, but everything was fine. In like the 6th week, I said it to him. And he was happy. So we had an intimate relationship, but no sex was involved. We would have fun doing other stuff but not sex. Neways moving on, now that the semester ended, with one semester left for graduation, we had a two week vacation. We planned to do so much in the week. On last friday, we started talking as usual in the morning saying where to go and all, and all of a sudden he tells me he wants to break up. I was in a complete shock. As he will be leaving the country to go study masters in london and there is no point in contiuing. Honestly, i didnt believe this shit he was saying, so i insisted on meeting him, although he didnt want to. He tried his best to avoid meeting me and just wanted to break up over a text message. Not even by answering. But finalllyyy he agreed on meeting me. We met on that day for like 40 minutes. Mostly I was doing all the talking , while he was quite and almost tearing up. Finally I made him confess that he met his ex girlfriend like 5 days go and started talking, and all those feelings came back. And he DIDNT TELL HER HE IS DATING ME CURRENTLY! I acted veryy maturely, I didnt say any bad words or insulted him. I asked him whether he wants to be with her or me, after several times he finally answered HER!. Then I let him go and went to my car. He told me he loved his ex, and the reason they broke up was stupid, as she graduated from university and he was still studying. But to be honest, I see the same thing is still there, he is still studying and she is a graduate :s !! Neway, He told me I am very sorry many times. And said he would love to stay in contact and be friends as well. But I told him I am sorry I cant be friends with my ex. As I said, I am a mature person, So i didnt act jealous or angry or anything. I was very mature. So that day it self at night i had to message him and say what was the final thing in my heart, by saying he should have been honest and all. And I stopped talking to him every since. Three days have passed and I have made no contact. It is very hard on me, I am heart broken but I am trying my best to control it. My question is, do u think him and his ex would last this time ?? U think now when university will start again which is after 5 days, he will start missing me again ? Right now I honestly want him back, I know there are alot of fish in the sea and I know he cheated on me, but He is a good guy! And he said to me many times .. that we were great together and had so much fun. So I just cant get it into my mind to believe such a great couple can end up not speaking forever again :( ! I dont want to try to break him up with his girlfriend, neither I am going to call / txt/ or anything to him. I am going to try to move on and try find some one else. But my question is , do u think I should forgive him if he tries to get back to me in the future ? Or do u think this guy doesnt deserve another chance from me. And do u think he will ever end up breaking with her again..like they did over a silly reason? Do u think as this semester moves on he will start thinking of me..as he know i study there and his girlfriend is at working or at home? I know i shouldnt live for the moment where he might come asking for me again … but I cant help but think that he will regret his decision to get back to his ex, as I told him he acted to fast on his emotions without thinking clearly. He got over excited and dumped me quickly. In my mind I believe he might regret it later , because he know how great things where between us ! I would appreciate an honest, harsh answer, rather than a sweet one to make me feel better. I am already working on my self to feel better :) I just need to know whether I should keep hope for this guy or forget him for ever and ever! Thank youu for reading and hope u answer :)

  • Lucas H:

    My boyfriend of 2 months is still paying his ex-girlfriend’s bills (she lives rent free in a house he owns, lets her use one of his cars, pays for the car insurance, and pays all her utilitity bills), even though they broke up 5 months ago. She doesn’t have a job and is on disability and has a kid in high school.

    They haven’t talked or seen each other since the break up. The child is not his But shouldn’t he stop supporting her financiall now that they’ve broken up?

  • Matthew S:

    Well my ex-girlfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago. We weren’t only boyfriend and girlfriend we were also like.. BEST friends. We dated for 1 year and 4 months and i still have feelings for her but I don’t know if she even misses me sometimes.. We talk all the time like every day and it feels like we could easily start dating again.. IS THERE ANYTHING I COULD SAY TO TURN HER ON OR MAKE HER WANT ME AGAIN?

  • Jonathan:

    My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 9 months ago when we both went off to college. She is untreated borderline personality disorder, and there were all the classic symptoms and relationship patterns. About a week after we left each other, she decided she didn’t want me in her life (despite promises to be there for each other) and for basically the entirety of our time apart, she has been unbelievably hostile towards me. All the classic symptoms of borderline rage. We haven’t had a civil conversation in 9 months, and haven’t talked at all in 4. I’m finally over blaming myself for everything, as I understand it’s not all my fault, and I tried as hard as I could. She refused to give me closure when I told her I needed it, but insisted that I give it to her. Her definition of closure is never speaking to her again so she knows I will never reappear in her life and “make her miserable” when all I wanted to do was fix things.

    Now, she has a new boyfriend and is very public about how much she “loves” him, whereas it took her 6 months with me to say she loved me. I still haven’t really found anything serious. It’s hard because I am probably going to have to be around her over the summer, and the pain is so overwhelming that I’m terrified of seeing her. How can i get past this?

  • RichT:

    my new girlfriend doesnt want my ex girlfriend texting me. how can i tell her to stop without being so mean?

  • Gundown64:

    My ex girlfriend whom I love very much still left to go to California this morning..

    Before she left I made sure I saw her, we first met up 3-4 nights ago and it was nice, it was just fun and easy going, and then towards the end of the night I gave her a ring that she loved and I told her I loved her still…she said she just couldn’t come back to right now

    Then the next few days I told her if she wanted to stay here instead of going to Cali that I would buy an apartment and take care of her and that I loved her very much still

    We met up last night and it was just casual again, I knew she wasn’t going to stay and so I told her I was happy for her whatever she decided to do and it was nice to see her again…we hugged goodbye and then later i txt her that i wanted her to keep the ring to remember me and that i loved her…and she responded that she would cherish and keep the ring forever

    I’m really happy now, I think maybe it was a good thing that she moved away…do you think I did the right thing?

    She originally left me because she was losing feelings and didn’t know why, I feel like one day she will realize how foolish of her it was to leave me, i get that sence by the way she looks at me and things she says

  • opurt:

    i cant seem to forget about my ex girlfriend even tho im going out with a new girlfriend now.

    its been a year and half since me and my ex girlfriend dated and i still cant get her out my mind.

  • x_blind_x_gamer_x:

    Its it a good idea to give my ex girlfriend a second chance at the relationship? we are 24yrs old and had been together for 4yrs when she asked for a break. After 4 months apart she wants to work things out, but I told her I needed time to think it though first. She is really really upset and is sorry for letting go of me and making me feel hurt by leaving me. What is best? Second chance or move on?

  • TommyKay:

    My boyfriend is different lately to me. We’ve been dating for more than 2+ years and everything was fine until he started to talk to his ex girlfriend again. They have classes together, talked online more,they walked home together, hanged out together afterschool, also they live like right next door to each other, and he changed his FB photo to him and her. Should I be worry? Or Should I just ignore it?

  • baldy eire:

    Me and my ex girlfriend moved into a apartment together we signed a 1year lease. After 4 months she decided to move out. The apartments still want there money can i take her to court and have ordered to pay her half? Or can i get it put on her credit that she skipped out on the lease. The apartments are threating to kick me out if rent isn’t paid and put it on my credit. Do i have any options. Please help!

  • Cliffy N:

    My ex-boyfriend is now dating his ex-girlfriend which people say that she has a child and is out of school.

  • Ryan Z:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • mike s:

    PLEASE RESPECT THAT THIS QUESTION IS FOR ADULTS, ~26 years old and up please answer this. Older would even be preferable.

    My friend has been dating this girl, he’s 30 (will soon be 31), she’s 31. They’ve been dating for 7 months or so, and he’s bought her an engagement ring. Apparently they’ve talked about getting married, or plan to or whatever. That aside, it seems kinda nuts to decide to get married after knowing someone for such a short period of time… Let alone an issue that arose when he found out that she was still on a dating website (Okcupid) back in November, after they had already exchanged “I love you” basically a week after having sex for the first time (She held out, and actually had been shady about the whole thing by not telling him she was friends with his ex girlfriend of 5 years, and was making excuses not to see him. So basically, they hung out a few times over a couple months, literally, and he didn’t see her for a couple weeks at a time. Then they had a talk and she revealed she was friends with his ex and that his ex had basically bashed him and said a slew of things bad about him which were most likely untrue/biased. Regardless, after that they had sex, then said i love you to each other a week or two after. Then a week after he said he’s going to marry this girl (in an insisting manner). Then the Okcupid thing, and he asked her and she said she didn’t know her password, but we did a little test and she would have had to literally login with a username and password, so she lied about it. He let it slide. Then he moved into her place, I and my other friends didn’t see him for a few months. Then he moved out because they were in a fight about how he kind of just ending up living at her place and she had concerns about him taking advantage of her rent-wise etc.

    SOOO…. Tonight I’m out with some friends, and he is there with his girlfriend. She starts feeling sick during the night and keeps leaving to go to the bathroom. One friend asks what’s going on, and he said that she might be pregnant. Then proceeds to tell us THAT THEY HAD ACTUALLY BEEN TRYING TO GET HER PREGNANT ON HER LAST CYCLE! All of us are kind of dumbfounded like how can you be serious. I guess love can be blind, and honestly I don’t have anything against his girl, but she seems to have been shady/concealing about major things (the fact she was friends with his ex randomly and that she said a lot of bad things about him, and NEVER brought it up for over 2 months, until he confronted her about what the problem was (at that time I had told him, dude something’s not right I think she’s just playing around with you, when he then proceeded to ask her and she spilled the beans) TO WHEN he found that she had logged into Okcupid when they had been officially dating for 2 months (and saying they were in love). TO THIS pure insanity of literally purposefully trying to get pregnant when they have been just dating for 7 months, not engaged, not married.
    They are Russian, so I guess you can attribute some of it to pressure from grandparents/parents in a cultural way. His girlfriend is a social worker/child psychologist, and my friend has just taken the Bar for the 4th time, not yet an attorney. But, I straight up think these people are crazy, and our friends think they are too. The whole thing is just weird.

    IF YOU GOT THIS FAR, I KNOW IT’S LONG… But how do you assess this? Thoughts? Personal experience? Input on any part you’d like to? AGAIN, PLEASE ONLY ANSWER IF YOU ARE ~26 years old and older.

    Frankly, I’m just trying to get some viewpoints on this, because it seems like they’re being reckless. This is not a way to gather “ammo” or to confront him, he knows I think he’s nuts and we just joke about it. I respect what he does either way, but it would really suck if he dives head on into this and it turns out like most marriages these days. I’ve met more and more young people that got married and were divorced very quickly. I’m just curious what people think of a situation like this, or if they think they would find themselves comfortably in a similar situation. I really find it hard to think that you truly know someone (not just to the nuances of their life), but their character, how you will interact on problems that come up between you (family issues, living arrangements, financial situations) in a very short period of time… Curious more so (stemming off from this) on successes of marriages when perhaps it’s an issue of getting older
    (Which he freely admits is a driving hand in their situation, so it’s a pressure on both of them that influences their decisions undoubtedly)
    @DAWN: Thank you, your perspective is very insightful. Trust me, I am not in any way being a nosy type or in any way trying to influence my friend’s decision. The type of relationship I have with him is one where we can joke around about things like this. He knows that I’m happy for him. I don’t really know his girlfriend well at all, and even if I did I’d never bring it up to her. Relationships and people and their decisions interest me, so I posed this long drawn out question. Who knows, maybe it will happen the same way to me, and he can take his jabs right back at me LOL. I’ve been in two situations where I “knew” I was going to marry the person, but things got in the way over time. Maybe when you are ready and put yourself in that situation (engagement, plans to marry, have children), it changes the whole dynamic of how a relationship holds up. I wish I could say more like yea she seems like a nice person, but I really can’t judge that f

  • Ramblin Spirit:

    My boyfriend still has pictures of him and his ex-girlfriend making out naked in bed on his computer. We’ve been seriously dating for about a year now. And even though his ex-girlfriend is a thing in the past, it still hurts me to see these pictures. Should I tell him to remove them? And how do I go about telling him?

  • Spider Pc:

    Ok, first of all, my dreams usually come to pass. Been that way since i was a kid. Most times i tell myself that my thoughts provoked my dreams but to my amazement, they come to pass in a few days or months. There was also a particular time i was being given messages in my dream to deliver to people. Well that’s another story.

    The thing is, i just went through a very tough breakup. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he believe he wasn’t making me happy any more. I had fought to get us back together but didn’t succeed. He always appeared indecisive. At a time he would want us back & at another he would say i am better off without him. So at the end i gave up. We were in a distance r/ship.

    6-7months before our breakup i had recurring dreams of him hurting me so bad. 3 dreams in a week. He was cheating on me in those dreams with other girls. One of the dreams was so real. My heart bled and i cried. When i woke, i discovered i was crying out and my left hand was placed on my heart as in the dream. My heart was hurting. I did not tell him about those dreams because i didn’t want him to think i didn’t trust him as that was not the case. When we broke up, the pain was as they were in those dreams. His reaction was same as in the dreams. well, in the end i discovered those dreams foretold what was going to happen and as usual i had ignored them.

    Now i have accepted our breakup but yet i have had 5 dreams (4 in a week) of us being together. In one of them, he was apologising in a video chat. In the other, we were in a gathering and i was telling my gfs that i was glad we made up. I was happier than ever in my life. The others were him holding me in his arms and apologising that he was sorry for all he put me through. One of them was so real that i could smell his cologne.

    I so hate these dreams. I try to overlook them but they keep coming. It ain’t also easy based on the fact that i’m so used to having my dreams come true: the recurring ones especially. This makes it a bit difficult to completely move on. I don’t wish us to be back together any more. He was the one guy i loved so deeply but i have decided to turn the page.

    Any help on why i keep having these dreams?

  • Echo:

    My ex and I have been seperated for a little over 4 months now. We went out for 3 years and had a great relationship. We lived together most of the relationship and liked each other for years before going out. At first I would email her every few days to try to get communication and I would get no response at all. After about a month and a half, she came to my graduation only to disappear again. I made the mistake of sending her flowers at work and emailing her a couple of times saying that I had made some changes (I was sincere, by the way). After no response, I just left it alone for a couple of months and I ran into her. She went up to me crying and hugging me without wanting to let go. She said she missed me a couple of times and I didn’t bring up anything about the relationship. Every time I would make her laugh, she would cry right away. After talking to her for a bit, a guy came up. She was only really paying attention to me. He had to pull her aside to talk to her for obvious reasons so I said bye to her and took off. It was obvious he was just a rebound and they had just started dating.

    The next morning I got a text saying “i miss you!.” later in the day i texted back saying “I miss you too. I wish we could talk, but it looks like you found a new guy and I don’t want to get in the way. I wish you the best.” 3 days later, I decided to give her a call and I said I would like to talk to her when I got her voice mail. The next morning, I sent a text saying I feel that we need to communicate and be honest with each other if things are ever going to work out between us. I said to call me that night. She texted back saying that that night was not the best and she could come over tomorrow. I replied saying I would call her tomorrow. I let my emotions get the best of me and called her later on and she didn’t pick up so I emailed her and said that we needed to talk that night and to call me. She never called, so the next day I called her and left a message asking to get coffee. I waited a few hours and then left another message saying “I thought we were going to meet up. Give me a call if you want to get coffee. Otherwise, I’ll assume you don’t want to talk” That was 4 days ago and I’ve heard nothing. I didn’t contact her anymore and probably won’t. Did I completely blow it?

  • _marky_mark_:

    The last time I watched the show, Rebbecca and Justin were about to get married and she was pregnant, but that is the last I know about her. I flipped the show on and found Justin kissing some other girl in a hospital so I am very confused.

  • _marky_mark_:

    I’m 26 and my ex is 25 we have known each other since we were 17. She is 4 months pregnant with our first child. But before she got pregnant our relationship was great I was so in love with her and would do anything for her and she seemed to care for me so much and always wanted me around. We never fought or had any problems she would come stay with me and I would stay with her. We found out she was pregnant in march and we both were so excited as we both always wanted to have kids. Even in the beginning of the pregnancy things were still good she wanted me around and didn’t change. This is the first times we ever fought and they got to be bad. We went to the first appointment and everything still seemed great and then the day after that appointment until now she changed she became distant and didn’t show any feelings or like she cared at all. It got so bad we took a break and then after we found out he was a boy things seemed to be good again. But two weeks ago she ended it with me saying she can’t do this for another 6 months. The other day we talked and she said once she was pregnant and started thinking about forever she couldn’t see being with me forever but she cared for me so much and loved that I was the dad of the baby. She has never told me she loved me and she has a bad past with men but everything was so great until that first appointment and then everything changed. I don’t know if this is hormones or something more I love this girl so much and would do anything for her and she has her moments where she will talk to me like she use to and then it’s back to like be hates me. Like yesterday she was telling me how she finally felt our son move and how it was so amazing and sent me pictures of the baby bump, but then she went off being distant again and acted like she hated me, and it kills me because part of me doubts she ever cared for me I just need advice guys is this hormones and should I just continue to wait or is more to it. And she is 16 weeks pregnant do hormones last this long if it is hormones and what should I do.

  • rndmaktn:

    How does a guy go about getting over an ex girlfriend? We just recently broke up, and she wants to be friends, but I don’t want to be. Am I alone in thinking that if someone is trying to get over their ex girlfriend, being friends with them actually slow the process, and makes it more difficult?

    How do you guys do it?

  • Ed D:

    We were together for around a year, she’s probably the most complicated person i’ve ever met – but i love her still even after she ended the relationship. She told me 3-4 days ago that if I ever say ‘i dont want you anymore’ you must realise its just because i’m looking out for you. She suffers from depression and her past with her family is so so complicated, and to be honest its horrible. I want to help her in the best way possible, but i dont get why she ended it when a few days before she was saying how much i meant to her and how much she loved me. And yeah i need help

  • Coffee t:

    My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 9 months ago when we both went off to college. She is untreated borderline personality disorder, and there were all the classic symptoms and relationship patterns. About a week after we left each other, she decided she didn’t want me in her life (despite promises to be there for each other) and for basically the entirety of our time apart, she has been unbelievably hostile towards me. All the classic symptoms of borderline rage. We haven’t had a civil conversation in 9 months, and haven’t talked at all in 4. I’m finally over blaming myself for everything, as I understand it’s not all my fault, and I tried as hard as I could. She refused to give me closure when I told her I needed it, but insisted that I give it to her. Her definition of closure is never speaking to her again so she knows I will never reappear in her life and “make her miserable” when all I wanted to do was fix things.

    Now, she has a new boyfriend and is very public about how much she “loves” him, whereas it took her 6 months with me to say she loved me. I still haven’t really found anything serious. It’s hard because I am probably going to have to be around her over the summer, and the pain is so overwhelming that I’m terrified of seeing her. How can i get past this?

  • ConfusionnaJob:

    Hey, well i have been in college for 4 months, and over that time I have met a really awesome guy.
    He is really nice, always talks with me, and hugs me in the morning. He always makes me feel cared for no matter what. He gives me little back massages, he always helps me out. When we went to the cafe he took away my plate when I was finished, he strokes me jaw etc. He does all these things and it makes me feel just so loved and cared for.
    Over the first two months, I developed strong feelings for him. He is an awesome guy and I feel I permantly want to be there for him and care for him. I have had many thoughts about him sexually and emotionally.
    So it hurts today, because he looks at girls, and he talks about ex girlfriends, so It looks like silly me has fallen for a straight guy again. and it hurts, because i love him. It feels like a thousand needles stabbing through my chest.
    Its especially hard for me because I never really had any friends before college, people never wanted to know me, but this guy just makes me feel like im worth something, so no wonder i have feelings towards him.
    I feel I just want to share my life with him, but it looks like it will never happen.
    Every guy I have fallen for is straight, and i feel i will never find the person for me.
    I have come home in tears, because i know i have no chance with him, and what hurts the most he is my best friend that I have.
    He doesnt know that Im gay or anything, I have never told anyone because Im afraid to, im afraid will hate me and my parents will find out and think im a failure. I feel just so useless, i cant even fall inlove with the right person.
    How do i overcome this and get over him?? I dunno what I should do. I just feel upset, and have noone to tell so I have come here, because its the only place I can get answers for this.
    Please help
    signed straightLove </3

  • diggn4richez:

    I still like my ex girlfriend a lot and i wanna get back together with her. She has a boyfriend but he doesn’t treat her well. I have a feeling she has thought about being with me again. I just dont know how to tell her how i feel.

  • Arminator:

    I still like my ex girlfriend a lot and i wanna get back together with her. She has a boyfriend but he doesn’t treat her well. I have a feeling she has thought about being with me again. I just dont know how to tell her how i feel.

  • Big Banger:

    What do you have to take to get back with an ex girlfriend?
    Say that you’ve been with other girls since, but none of them were that great, and you and your ex are back in contact? She’s single, you’re single. You’re relationship before was alright.

  • sean:

    My friend is worried to death because his ex girlfriend is trying to change their one year old daughters name without his permission. He is a good father the ex girlfriend and him just dont get along. His name is on her birth certificate, so does this mean it will be that easy for her to just change their daughters last name? Is there anything my friend can do?

  • David:

    My ex girlfriend for 8 months hasn’t talked to me in a week and she ended it by saying she never ever wants to be with me again. A week later she calls me 5 times and leaves 2 text messages about her sleeping with dougie(stuffed animal turtle) still and then said my name with a question mark at the end. She said she isn’t ready to talk but just wanted me to know she was thinking about me and that she hopes im doing ok. What does this mean?

  • Big Banger:

    My ex girlfriend and I have the same class together how can I stop thinking about her I miss her so much but I can’t do nothing about it. She tear my heart apart and i still can’t stop thinking about her is been a month since we broke up. What should I do I need advices please help.

  • lets roll:

    We started talking about who we had been dating since breaking up and she had dated three guys and had sex with them all and I hadn’t dated anyone. So I asked her if I was the biggest guy she’s had, 4.5 inches, and she said she had been with a guy that was at least 8 and thick as a shaving cream can. Now I feel really small and like a girl wouldn’t want me sexually.

  • Eric:

    I’m 26 and my ex is 25 we have known each other since we were 17. She is 4 months pregnant with our first child. But before she got pregnant our relationship was great I was so in love with her and would do anything for her and she seemed to care for me so much and always wanted me around. We never fought or had any problems she would come stay with me and I would stay with her. We found out she was pregnant in march and we both were so excited as we both always wanted to have kids. Even in the beginning of the pregnancy things were still good she wanted me around and didn’t change. This is the first times we ever fought and they got to be bad. We went to the first appointment and everything still seemed great and then the day after that appointment until now she changed she became distant and didn’t show any feelings or like she cared at all. It got so bad we took a break and then after we found out he was a boy things seemed to be good again. But two weeks ago she ended it with me saying she can’t do this for another 6 months. The other day we talked and she said once she was pregnant and started thinking about forever she couldn’t see being with me forever but she cared for me so much and loved that I was the dad of the baby. She has never told me she loved me and she has a bad past with men but everything was so great until that first appointment and then everything changed. I don’t know if this is hormones or something more I love this girl so much and would do anything for her and she has her moments where she will talk to me like she use to and then it’s back to like be hates me. Like yesterday she was telling me how she finally felt our son move and how it was so amazing and sent me pictures of the baby bump, but then she went off being distant again and acted like she hated me, and it kills me because part of me doubts she ever cared for me I just need advice guys is this hormones and should I just continue to wait or is more to it. And she is 16 weeks preg

  • Mr SoLo DoLo:

    So, I’m trying to figure this guy out.

    He watches videos of marylin manson, he reads books about marylin manson and has music videos all over on his you tube and in his music selection.

    But he has his ex girlfriend stoya who’s a porn star in his movies and groups but that is related to marylin manson, has members of the band on his youtube.

    Do you think he’s obsessed with his ex girlfriend or marylin manson?

  • RxP DarkBox:

    Curious to know if an abuser quickly moves on, if his ex girlfriend did not give into his pleading and begging to stay in the relationship. Also, if he wanted to marry her, though they dated for a short period. As all along he proclaimed that he loved her.
    Would he have forgotten his ex and moved on?
    The reason for the break up is of course his horrible behaviour.
    Pearl and Happy-2 the reason I ask, is because its difficult for the victim to forget the abuse and one is extra cautious to move on.

  • The Inc:

    MY ex girlfriend asked today to come over tomorrow so we could talk. We broke up a week ago and ive been ignoring her. I asked her if I could get my stuff back and she said “yeah, thats why I asked you to come.” So I said “So just bring it to school so I dont have to walk back from your house.” And then she said “but you dont even want to talk?” i want her back, what do I say or do?

  • stingerms:

    I am in love with my ex-girlfriend’s roommate, who is also her best friend. I have had a crush on her for a long time even before I knew my ex-girlfriend. I’ve talked to her about it and she said that she likes me but she doesn’t want to hurt my ex. What can I do to date her?

  • Samuro:

    I adopted a cat. I signed the paperwork. Ex-girlfriend moved out a month ago. Now she wants the cat. She somehow thinks it’s her cat. She took all the documents when she left and I am trying to get copies from the shelter. She is threatening to get a court order to retrieve the cat from my home. Can she do this? What can / should I do?

  • borabora5524:

    Me and my ex girlfriend have both had partners since and are now both single again and i still love her alot and really want her back. We hang out again, with a group of friends and i dont know how and when i should tell her how i feel (though i think she already suspects that i like her alot again).

    But yeh: we are just friends at the minute and dont know how she feels and how and when to aproach her about the topic?

  • Hayden:

    I am thinking on taking back my ex girlfriend. I been with her twice. I last had her two years ago. How often do things work out when someone takes a girlfriend back? Do they actually ever have a happy marriage?

  • xLittle21Yaox:

    By coincidence I have received my ex-girlfriend in a secret santa draw I was thinking an ironic gift would be the book – How to Win Friends and Influence People.

    My second thought was a Cliff Richard calender to be gifted as something she would find completely useless.

    Any suggestions on insulting gifts that are subtle would be appreciated.
    @Marly – We mutually decided to end the relationship, then I made a good effort to get her back. This failed and I have been replaced. She is not hurting as she has a new partner who she is having a good time with.

  • Bryan J:

    So I have this ex girlfriend and I kind of still have feelings for her what dose this mean?

  • thexbox360player:

    My friend and his now ex girlfriend broke up recently but they still live together. They usually live in mutual peace but when my friend gets drunk (which he’s doing every night now) he starts rediculous fights with her, threatening to kick her out. She doesn’t react maturely (tonight she took his prized Star Wars DVD collection and destroyed it) but it wouldn’t come to these things if he didn’t egg them on. He doesn’t hit her or anything but I’m worried it might soon come to that. Any advice?

  • Chris R:

    I want to go out with my ex-girlfriend again. She wasn’t stolen but I need advice on how to get her back.

  • PillowMan1234:

    My ex girlfriend has a boyfriend and they have been going out for some time now. I just figured out that i love her and i don`t know how to tell her. Were both 15, what should i do?

  • sam N:

    Okay so me and my ex girlfriend have been broken up for a little over a year, but we still remained friends. We talk and hang out a lot. It’s pretty good except for one thing. I’ve recently started having slight feelings for her again. To be honest I highly doubt that there’s any chance that we’ll get back together. It’s great being friends, but I really thought these feelings were gone after we broke up. Any advice?

  • borabora5524:

    She is also much better looking than he is, she also cooks like a chef, is a No. 1 housekeeper, and she has more than 15 yrs experience in the sex trade, so she has a lot of experience under her belt.

    Why would she sacrifice so much and, on top of that, allow him to stalk his ex-girlfriend. The ex-girlfriend is tired of being stalked too, she doesn’t want to be involved in a love triangle, but he keeps stalking her. What’s the deal? Is it because she is completely financially dependent on him and she has no other choice?

  • Matthew S:

    Treated my now ex girlfriend Soooooo Great but she left me to go back with her ex who just wasn’t there for her.(She told me) Do they typically come back after they see the grass wasn’t so green on the other side of the fence.?????? She was previously with him one year, me 9 months?

  • maskills24:

    My ex-girlfriend and I have a mutually agreed custody order where I get our daughter from one pm to the next morning Mon- Fri and every other weekend. Now she wants to move to Tennessee. I am, of course, object to this. What can I do to stop this?

  • Rishabh Bajpai:

    He gave his ex girlfriend a doll. He says he likes me and flirts with me, went out on a date with me and still talks to me. Yet he gave her a christmas present.

  • jdfan:

    My Ex Girlfriend is 19 and her current boyfriend wont let me talk to her anymore, We had about a 5month relationship. I Want to try and talk to her again but her new boyfriend is a prick and wont let me talk to her ? Any suggestions ?

  • Jermaine J:

    My boyfriend just told me that his ex-girlfriend went to the doctor and found out that she had a dead baby inside of her. He doesnt know how to feel and I dont exactly know how to help him. I’m relieved that he isnt gonna be a father but i still feel terrible.

  • Rishabh Bajpai:

    Ok so I have this ex girlfriend with bpd who’s trying to get in contact with me (she probably tormented her boyfriend to death). My question is, how do I torment her for ruining 8 months of my life and emotionally scarring me? My idea is to get really close with her and give her tons of attention and “feel sorry for her” then randomly cut communications with her. She would probably go crazy. Have any other ideas?

  • Big Banger:

    We have a 1.5 year old child. About 1 year ago my girlfriend broke up with me. I tried to fix things and she was telling me that I wasn’t taking care of the child etc but this was just an excuse.. I found out that that she was sleeping around with other guys. We were living in my mother’s house at the time. I offered to take a flat for us but she does not want it. But wants to continue living at my mothers place. At the time I started drinking a lot and had a lot of problems, attacking her once when drunk because I was angy at her behaviour and how she treated me and lost my license for drink driving. I stopped drinking completely 4 months ago and started seeing my daughter, taking care of her and giving my ex money etc.. and things seem to have got a bit better – we booked a holiday which I ended up paying for like most things. I can’t stop loving her even though I know she doesn’t love me and has told me this, to get over someone you need to not see them but I have to see her because she controls my child… I tried to forget about her for the last 6 months by sleeping with lots of other women but it hasn’t helped. In the future things will get worse when she moves out of my parents house and probably finds a new boyfriend.. If things are reasonably civalised I don’t know if I will be able to deal with this psychologically.. How can I deal with this? Is there some therapy or help available? I stopped drinking because I am worried I won’t be able to control my actions… I’ve never had real friends.. I am jealous of everyone and everything. . I will never be able to trust or love a woman again and I don’t believe any woman can love me.. so I only use pros.. now.. I started believing in God for the first time in my life at 26 and I pray for help every day…

  • Mistry:

    My ex girlfriend whom I love very much still left to go to California this morning..

    Before she left I made sure I saw her, we first met up 3-4 nights ago and it was nice, it was just fun and easy going, and then towards the end of the night I gave her a ring that she loved and I told her I loved her still…she said she just couldn’t come back to right now

    Then the next few days I told her if she wanted to stay here instead of going to Cali that I would buy an apartment and take care of her and that I loved her very much still

    We met up last night and it was just casual again, I knew she wasn’t going to stay and so I told her I was happy for her whatever she decided to do and it was nice to see her again…we hugged goodbye and then later i txt her that i wanted her to keep the ring to remember me and that i loved her…and she responded that she would cherish and keep the ring forever

    I’m really happy now, I think maybe it was a good thing that she moved away…do you think I did the right thing?

    She originally left me because she was losing feelings and didn’t know why

  • zaclo:

    I was going out with a girl for about a year… We got on great but I was 23 she was (20) and she often would make me feel bad about seeing my friends, I was not allowed to holiday with them either…

    Anyway we split up last year for three months. In that time I met someone else and had a few dates… When I got back with my ex I told her this. I got back with her as she promised to change and begged a lot.

    We were together again for another few months but arguing continued and I realised she was not the one for me…. One night whilst having an argument on the phone I told her enough is enough and it’s over.

    She wanted to meet and talk about it… I didn’t.

    She went on and on texting, ringing, facebooking…. In the end I gave in and I drove to her house, dropped of her stuff and had a chat for 10 minutes or so, hugged goodbye and that…

    The other girl I saw last time I broke up with my ex is my sisters friend, and is often round and we get on well…

    My ex has it in her head that I left her for someone !!! We split up last November over 3 months ago and I have not had a girlfriend.

    She has named about 4 girls in the past month that she thinks I’m with.

    To this day I still get in excess of over 30 texts a day and numerous phone calls.

    I ignore her completely. But her texts are full of bad language, she is threatening to get me beaten up, insulting other girls and family members, she has told me and text me evidence that she cheated on me, threatened to wreck my business… She also embarrassing has a naked photo of me which she claims she has posted on a social media site… And I can’t take it any more.

    I have spoke to O2 who say they cannot block numbers just change mine… But I can’t as its my business number. I have it on thousands of business cards that have been distributed over the years.

    I can’t find an iPhone app that can block texts and calls…

    Then there is the police. Will that just anger this crazy girl and make her do worse things?

  • Denali:

    This isnt like most of the questions I read on here, I just need to ask some neautral people if they think I have done the right thing.

    My ex girlfriend has messed me around for 4 years. She has broken up with me three times and all as a result of her cheating on me, with her ex and most recently with a lad of her course at university. She was honest enough to admit to these herself (following drink) and broke up with me this time saying she knows she would keep on hurting me.

    Now the usual routine would be a few months later she would be in touch and I would go running and fall for whichever story it was that time. This time I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t and would move on.

    The day she broke up with me was the day I started my new job as a manager in my career, this was following months of hard work and a pretty intense interview process. That day I got up and went to work feeling like I had everything, came home and it was all shattered. After she broke up with me she wanted to gather her things to which I asked her to come back the next day and do because it was a bit too much for me to sit through in one day.

    I done the sensible thing in deleting her numbers, blocking facebook and emails, as I didn’t want to fall into that trap again.

    She never came back for her things the next day, in fact she never came back after a month. So I decided I needed to throw them out and needed to clear her things out of my space.

    The next day she came for her things while I was at work, my flatmate told her I had got rid of her things. She had a month to get her all her stuff, she knows where I live and she knows generally what time I or my flatmate are in.

    I suppose what I am asking is did I do the right thing in throwing her stuff away? Why did she wait a month to come for it? And I why do I feel guilty for doing it?

  • nmlpc:

    If my friend claimed to have negative one ex girlfriends, what does that mean?

  • Lachlan:

    Why does seeing my ex girlfriend make me feel so bad. We dated for about 8 months when she asked me for a brake in January. Now every time I see her I feel depressed. What should I do she goes to my friends house every day. I can’t stop going to my friends house i babysit for them. Is she doing it on purpose to mess with my head? Or does she not know she is doing it. Can anyone help me please? A women’s point of view would be best but any would help.

  • toast:

    Yesterday I had a nightmare about my boyfriend cheating on me with his ex girlfriend… I was very angry and sad. What does it mean? Why would I dream about that?

    Note: I’m a very jealous girlfriend though my boyfriend barely talks to girls but I don’t trust girls in my country, most of them are very bitchy…

    but the weird thing is that I wasn’t thinking about that, since I met my boyfriend yesterday and had a good time with him.

  • Alex:

    My ex girlfriend is really bugging me over Facebook about wanting to get back together. I broke up with her because in my eyes she was flirting with another guy. She insists she wasn’t but she left her Facebook running and saw her messages.
    Does anybody know how I can get rid of her?

  • jordenkotor:

    directly or indirectly, knowing that his actual girlfriend has envied for more than 25 yrs his ex-girlfriend, and by reminding continually his nes girlfriend of the existence of his ex to whom his actual girlfriend feels inferior?
    Holly Paw: Its not for me, I’m the ex-girlfriend. There is no way I would accept that.
    Granpa Mike: Its not for me, I’m the ex-girlfriend. I would not accept that.

  • kass9191:

    We have been dating for 2 months and been in 4 arguments and I have cried 4 times in this relationship. 1st arguments was about something really stupid and 2nd one was about him and his friend at a beach and his friend told me both of them were asking for girls numbers and then I got a little worried so I asked him he said yes but it was for his friend I believed him. The 3rd argument was about him and his ex girlfriend Camyrn which is my friend and she still like him and his friend Dylan and this girl morgan but when he said camryn I was worried and upset because I knew she still likes him and I was thinking she may friend a way to date him but they were hanging out and he didn’t ask if I wanted to hang out with him but I asked and said do you want to hang out today? He said Na sorry have plans with someone else I said have fun and who then he said all those people I just listed and then I said have fun ttyl bye then he just said bye. The 4th argument was about very thing I was upset about and then I asked if he liked anyone else then me then he said yeah what do u want to talk about then I was crying and asked again then he said no then I said bye cause it was upset then he said babe I said yes he said dont go I said y then he said nothing I said bye then he said fine bye! All friends say I should break up with him I should be in a happy relationship not one were im depressed and then now we barely talk and haven’t seen each other in a month and it feels like this whole relationship is fading and falling apart but he said the relationship is perfect to him not to me. What should I do without hurting his feelings?

  • Xedo:

    I want to set a profile for my mobile data to automatically turn off Monday-Friday from the times 9 am till 5 pm and then at 5 pm turn back on. How is this done? Please give step by step instructions.

  • _marky_mark_:

    My boyfriends ex girlfriend keeps texting him. Sometimes just to talk and sometimes to try and get him back and make him feel guilty. What should I do?

  • SKATEskum:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. During the week we both mutually decided to meet up tomorrow and talk about what went wrong in the relationship and what actually caused the breakup. I really want her back. I still love her and care about her and don’t want to mess things up in our first meeting. Should I tell her tomorrow that I want her back and want to work things out, or should I give her more time?

  • PolishPokeyPimp:

    I still love my ex-girlfriend, but I want her to be at least comfortable hanging out with me as friends first and hopefully I can win her heart again sometime later. I was thinking we could go to the library and study – as friends, not a date. What should I say when I call her?

  • Harry:

    Hello, I am a 21 year old junior biology student in college. I have been in pre med since the beginning and wish to become a doctor. My ex girlfriend (who has been dating me since freshman year, broke up with me the other day because she is worried about the future and said that she cannot see each other together in the future. I am absolutely crushed, I talked with her today and she seems like she no longer wants to date me. She said we have a year in a half left of college and that we should spend our last special moments with our friends instead of each other. When I talked to her all I got was that she couldn’t see us at all together in the future. I pleaded with her that she can obviously go to any medical school she wants and that I don’t want her to prevent from choosing the school of her choice. Throughout our relationship, we went on a break freshman year during winter break because she needed space. She came back to me and we continued our relationship until the summer of junior year when she broke up with me two weeks before summer vacation began. She said that she hasn’t been single for over 8 years (because before she dated me she dated a kid from high school for 4 years) and wanted to live the single life. I was crushed but then during the fall semester of junior year we started talking again and literally became best friends. Then, in November we got back together and have been dating throughout winter break. I took her skiing, celebrated New Years Together, and went to a Christmas concert together. We both seemed to be having an absolute blast. Then, the other day, about two days in the spring semester she began acting strange to me. Because I just know her so well I called her out on it. That night, we got together and she said to me that she has been having doubts about our relationship in the near future and does not see us together even after college. I honestly have no idea what is going to happen between us. I honestly thought that she was the one for me and now after three years she tells me that she no longer wishes to think of me as a bf. I still love her and right now I am completely lost. I don’t even know where this came from but she said that she just can’t see us together in the future. I want her back because I thought she was the one. We have spent so much time together in college, studying, laughing, and being together for the last three years. I am worried that she is looking for a doctor or medical student to date when she gets into medical school so that once she enters med school she can be single. However, she denies this and she seems like she is telling the truth. I don’t want to be forgotten, I still love her and don’t want to lose her. Please help me.
    But she is a devout catholic and good person. She wouldn’t cheat or do anything like that behind my back, I know that for a fact. Do you think if I become friends with her we might get back together? Because after the second time she broke up with me I felt for sure we would never be with each other again. However, I didn’t want to lose everything we had so I still wanted to be friends with her. And throughout the Fall semester of junior year we became best friends and then shortly after we began to date again. I swear I know she is the one. God knows it, I know it. It just sucks that she is being like this. I am hoping after we continue our friendship like we used to even after college. I was hoping that while she was in medical school and me still being friends with her our relationship could grow again and become even more mature then it was when we were in college. Any suggestions on that I would greatly appreciate it!

  • Andre:

    My son is 4. I only see him one day a week and he lives with my ex gf and her partner.

    He is the best thing that ever happened to me and I really love him. I only get to see him 1 day a week but try and be as good a Dad I can for him. I am joining the Army and was explaining to him that I wouldn’t be able to see him for a while but how much I loved him. He said to me ‘Have you been bold again and have to go away?”

    I didn’t expect him to say that but knew that my ex had been talking to him. When I was younger I got into a lot of trouble and ended up in jail and was there when he was born and I split up from my ex then. I never expected him to say that and didn’t know what to say. I never told him I was in jail as I thought he was too young to know about it. I am a changed person now haven’t been in any trouble since I got out more than 3 1/2 years ago and am now taking the chance of joining the Army which I’ve been trying to do for years because of my record.

    Anyway any advice on dealing with my ex and what she is saying to my son and also the best way to explain to him about my past and what I am doing now so that he can understand a bit even though he’s only 4

  • morbiusdog:

    My ex and I broke up a week before senior prom (he was 20 and I was 18) because he said he was “going through things” but come to find out he got back with his ex girlfriend and moved 4 hours away to live with her. About 2 months later I found out I was pregnant. During the whole pregnancy there was nothing but problems because his girlfriend did not like me. She kept telling him how basically just how they reconnected same thing could happen with us and she wasn’t allowing me to “break them up”. She blocked me on his facebook, if I would call his phone and she answered I would get hung up on and just a whole bunch of stupidity. He still would call me sometime and even came down to visit when our son was born but when he went back I got a reply that said “who is this”. I said “it’s me stop playing” then he said “screw the baby, don’t text me again my wife doesn’t like it” (mind you he is NOT married).

    After that I left him alone, he hadn’t signed the birth certificate or even tried having ANYTHING to do in his life. Well 4 years later all of a sudden he popped up. He asked me could we talk and I said sure. Come to find out him and his girlfriend broke up. Now he wants back in his sons life and is “so sorry”. My first thought is hell no, you don’t get to just pop up after you choose a woman over your child! I’ve recently got married and he see’s my husband as his father now instead of my ex. He is the one who was there when he left me, he was at the hospital when Tristan was born, Tristan calls and views him as dad and he even went into the military a little after he was born just to make sure we didn’t have to struggle and worry.

    My son is not a freaking toy. Why would I allow a man who didn’t give a damn about and left simply because his GIRLFRIEND. What is stopping him from leaving this time? Why would I allow him back in? For what him to get close for a while and this time actually hurt Tristan when he leaves? I went through that already as a child and know what it feels like i’d NEVER let that happen to my child especially while he is only 4!

    Am I honestly wrong?
    I get my thinking could be blurred because this has me feeling so many different things it’s crazy.

    Advice PLEASE

  • stingerms:

    Firstly, I would like to say that I’m a pretty rational individual. While being skeptical and apprehensive to believe in such abstract topics, I also am fairly open to them as well; there’s an equal balance.

    Since I was kid I encountered a lot of strange, but minor occurrences that I think could be categorized as paranormal. Nothing extreme like talking to the dead or reading minds, but small things that still caught my attention. I’ve passed a lot of these happenings up as mere coincidence or luck, but I got some really bad deja vu today while watching tv so I’ve now decided to do a little investigating. Here’s just a few examples of what I’ve experienced.

    Today I was watching the live Ufc fights from Brazil, but I swear I’ve seen most of those fights before somewhere. I kept checking to see if I was in fact watching a rerun of an event, but it was live, aired just today. For most of the fights, I knew who was going to win and how. And it was weird cause I could picture the knockout or submission in my head before it happened and when it actually did, I kept saying, “Wait, where have I seen this?!?” I even knew what one of the fighters was going to say in the post-fight interview so I even recorded it from my phone to show a friend. I said what the guy was going to say and then he actually said it. It wasn’t word for word, but still how could I know that if it was a live coverage?

    Just last week I was with this girl I’ve just started talking to and I asked her to tell me a funny story so she was gonna tell the story of her first fight. And before she even starts, I say the first thing that comes to my mind jokingly, “It was with a boy named Brandon, right?”. I was just kidding, but she started freaking out because it actually was with a boy named Brandon. Weird.

    A couple of months ago I was at the grocery store with my sister and her husband and we’re in line to check out. We had at least two carts full of groceries. I mean completely full. So my sister’s husband turns to me and says, “How much do you think all of this is going to cost?”. Again, I’m joking around, but I say the first thing that comes to my mind, “332 dollars exactly”. And what’s the total? Five minutes later we’re checked out and what’s the total? It’s 332 dollars. All three of us were creeped out, but reason intervened and I passed it off as luck, but I’m starting to think otherwise.

    When I was kid I was watching WWE with my brother and there was a wrestler who out of nowhere did a jumping move off of the top ropes. I said out loud to my brother, “It’s a bird! It’s a plane! No it’s Shelton Benjamin!” (Name of the wrestler). And literally less than 5 seconds after I said that the commentator says the exact same thing word for word.

    Also, I used to check for the time and it would always be 9:11. I wouldn’t look at a clock for hours, but when I did it was 9:11. I would wake up in the morning, look at the time and what do you know, it’s 9:11. This doesn’t happen much anymore, but it did carry on for a couple of years, happening at least 3 or 4 days out of the week.

    My ex girlfriend and I met in college; we lived in the same dorms. The first time I saw her I just got a weird feeling. Some months pass and I don’t know how it happened, but one very drunk night she ends up in my room and after talking for like 2 hours, we hook up. I was really drunk, but I remember repeatedly telling her that I loved her which is not in my character at all. I had a lot of drunk one night stand hook ups before her and never have I said anything like that. But the thing is that I actually do end up falling in love with her. Or maybe I loved her from the get go, not sure. Also, a week or so into our fling I told her that she was going to end up breaking my heart. Like I just knew it. And what happens? She does end up breaking my heart. Coincidence? Maybe. But I just think that’s a little too intuitive.

    There’s a lot more experiences like this that I’ve encountered, but those are a few that stick out in my head. Stuff like this always happens when I least expect it. I’ve tried intentionally guessing numbers and the like, but it never works out. It only happens when I’m not thinking about it. Anyone have any similar experiences they can share or knowledge on the subject? If I do possess any abilities, is it possible to strengthen them? And how? I’m a 20 year old male if that helps. Also, I struggle with sleep paralysis a lot (it’s slowed down lately) and I have lucid dreamt a couple times before. Please share any info you have because I feel like I’m going crazy or something, but all this stuff is starting to weird me out so I want to know more. Thanks.
    Can you please refrain from “It’s nonsense”, “not possible” or any answer as simple as that. Provide a link with an article explaining how the brain can trick us into believing this type of stuff or something like that. I’m really attempting to understand this.

  • Miguel M:

    I’ve read Twilight and overall, it’s well written, but Mrs. Meyers could have done better. Personally, here are the reasons why I somewhat dislike Twilight.

    1) Isabella Swan (or Bella) is the type that would be in a Mary-Sue fanfic & I can’t stand Mary-Sues at all. I read somewhere that she is & from what I’ve read (in the books), she kinda is, though not completely. She’s one of the characters I like, but don’t love for reasons that involve her neediness for Edward and selfishness.

    2) The fangirls (I am yet to see a fanboy that obsesses over the series & not just the girls). As much as I somewhat like Twilight, the fangirls (as always) are extremely annoying. They make me sick of the series with their screaming over every time Jacob becomes shirtless and when Edward says or does something. Don’t get me wrong…I love them both (mostly as actors and for their personalities), but the fangirls make me wish they weren’t even in the movies.

    3) How Bella thinks her life is over when Edward leaves her for a little while. A small part of me wanted her to move on & stop doing dangerous crap in New Moon when Edward left her. This reminds me too much of today’s teens. They cry (well the girls do) when their boyfriends leave them, even though it’s probably best.

    4) The sparkles of the vampires. That’s what majorly got me. What are they? Tinkerbell?! I question Meyers’ motives for that. How can anyone love sparkling vampires? That’s kinda silly, even for a book

    5) The fact that everyone drools over everyone except Bella. I feel bad for Bella. It’s not for the things that happened to her, but for out of all of the Twilight charcters, she has the least amount. I think Edward and Jaocb (and maybe the rest of the Cullens and somewhat Charlie) have the most. I kinda of wished she had more fans.

    6) OMG! JK Rowling stole Stephanie Meyer’s character Jacob Black, and made him into Sirius Black!/ Oh man, do I hate the people who say that! First of all, Harry Potter was around WAY longer than Meyers’ books, meaning Sirius had the last name Black, rode a motorcycle (I’m 99% sure he had one, but gave it to Hagrid), and could turn into a dog (though in Jacob’s case he was a wolf) WAY before Jacob did any of the things listed. I guess they’re just sticking up for their favorite book.

    7) Necrophilia (sexual intercourse with a dead body). How did Edward even get an erection and get Bella pregnant? It makes no logic sense. I’m not sure if Meyers even knows about what happens to your body when you die or if she was just hoping no one would notice (though some have).

    8) Pedophilia/ aka when Edward is dating Bella before she turns 18 and Jacob imprinting on Bella’s daughter. I know human laws don’t apply to supernatural creature, but it still seems wrong. I know some’s going to say it (about supernatural creatures don’t have to do what humans say), but if vampires and were-wolfs lived publicly among the living, the laws would apply to them too and Bella’s child is half human, so there has to be some rule there too. She would be protected by law if this were real.

    Anyway, though this is just a piece of fiction, it’s horrible and God help this woman (and us) when or if she’s working on another book (I heard she might continue the series from either Renesmee or Leah’s POV since Bella and Edward’s love story has ended, meaning there’s no point in continuing to tell how much they love each other over and over again).

    Tell me why you hate Twilight & you don’t have to agree with my statements (since they’re what I think). I’m really curious as of why most people or yourself hate the series. It’s kinda hard to ask on most websites without getting bombed with crazy Twilight fangirls praising the books/movies and shooting off their big mouths about how awesome it is without even thinking about the question I have and most are just trolls. I don’t care if you are a fan, but I really would like the non-fans to share their opinions. Thanks!

    PS: List as may as you can. I think you can email me if you run out of room.

  • Phillip123:

    We all make mistakes and the only way to learn is by screwing up. I think some mistakes in love can not be avoided. You are young, you get overwhelmed and you do stupid things. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and for each girl I’ve had and lost I’ve taken something with me. I’ve been too clingy, I’ve spent too much money on a girl, I’ve lied, I’ve declared my undying love too soon and I’ve talked too much about my ex girlfriends and so on.

    Today I think I’m in a much better and mature place. But it takes time to get there. What mistakes have you made that you will never repeat again?

  • Eric:

    Me and my ex broke up around 6 months ago. We were together for around 3 years and she was unhappy with our relationship in terms of time spent and some other details. She moved back to her home state and we didnt talk for 3 months. We started talking maybe for 4 months now and she says she wants to think about trying it again. She visited recently and we had an awesome time together (she payed for the ticket). Now she is back in her home state. She has seen a lot of guys since our breakup (which is fine) but since we started talking and seeing if things may still work she is still going out and hooking up with guys (again its fine but when you say you love someone and have intentions of getting back together with them i certainly wouldn’t be doing that myself, not that i couldnt it just doesnt sound like something i would want to do). Anyways everytime i bring up the question of what her status or thoughts are about us possibly getting back together she gets annoyed and pushes it off and usually gets off the phone. Our talking doesnt seem one sided she will start conversations up and so will i. I have not pestered her about going out and hanging out with other guys whatsoever it just really questions her real intentions here. She wants me to go see her and meet her friends and stay with her family here soon but i am wondering why i would spend my money if i know something is so unstable. She is putting in the initiative and still says she loves me. It is just hard to wrap my head around why she is taking this long to come to any conclusion and why she thinks she is the only one who is stressed. My life relationship wise is at a standstill obviously my choice becuase i have been waiting for a decision from her. I have not been seeing anyone or going out and hooking up with other girls because i have no desire to as long as she thinks we may have something there still. My question is what do you think her intentions are and why is she putting this conversation off so long? She doesnt seem to grasp the fact that i have a life to and have put mine on hold and she doesnt seem to care either. Its all about her but she still hangs around but will never have the conversation. Any advice on how to go about this conversation or something i should point out about my intentions or hers in order to make her realize she needs to make a decision here. I have no problems moving forward, but this girl really means a lot to me and i want to give her a chance here. I just dont get why she is prancing around with other guys and what it tells me about her intentions. I havent been because i have no desire too.
    Yeah “hooking up” means having sex. I know thats what my intuition tells me. Since we broke up she went a little crazy with the partying and all that stuff. I agree with everything you’re saying. She has indeed been manipulative and selfish and that is one worry i do have if we did decide to get back together. But my mind and heart are on two different pages. I am so torn up about all of it.

  • _marky_mark_:

    It’s this guy i used to be “good friends” with. I met him at a job i used to worked at. In the beginning, he was a cool friend, him and I hung-out, we talked on the phone, like almost everyday. At that time, he was new to America, and this was his first job he ever worked at for money, in his life.(he’s from Africa,) We used to have conversations on the phone about our job from time to time, I’ve worked on that job for long time, so basically, I was trying to give him the “heads up”, letting him know that, a lot of the co-workers and managers were two-faced and to be careful. After, 4 or 5 months, on the job, he started to make new friends. Everytime, I would say something about some of the co-workers, I didn’t like, that he became “cool” with, he would kind of defend them “in some sort of way”, trying make it seem like i was that one with problem. We still hung-out, but as time with on, our friendship started to deteriorate. It’s like the more “cooler” he gotten with people on that job, the lesser our friendship became. At that point, I stop talking to him, b/c i felt like he wasn’t a true friend. Then, as some time went on, out if the blue, he messaged me on facebook, saying how he missed me and our friendship. He had gotten a small apartment, and he wanted me to come and hang-out with him, so i did, b/c it seemed like he was really being sincere about wanting our friendship back. We “kind of” became back friends, and i would come and hang-out with him at his apartment. After he brought himself a used car, cell phone and a flat screen tv, he started to act “funny” with me… he thought he was all of that..(clearly, he isn’t used to having nothing)lmao! He wanted to be more than friends, but I didn’t, b/c i don’t like him in that way . I guess he got mad, b/c he started to always felt the need to tell about his ex-girlfriend (that cheated on him) and female’s he claimed he “could have slept” with…lol he started to act really dumb and stupid towards me. He tried to act like he was “better than me” b/c he was in college, and I wasn’t at that time. There was a couple of times when he didn’t have a car, he needed a way to school and work and i took him, in my car. He started always have a bad attitudes towards me, acting like a straight up BITCH… The last time i came over to hang-out with him, I was laying back on his bed watching t.v, then out of the blue, he pulled my skin really hard on the upper left side of my chest and tried to poke my vagina with his finger!(I’m a virgin and that hurt ed like hell) and yes( I had my clothes on), then he thumped and elbowed me on my breast, then he laughed about it. I was totally done with him, after he did that. I called him and told him he needed to apologize to me, for doing what he did, he told me, I need to grow up and let it go(but he’s clearly the one that’s immature and how dare he) It’s been, 5 months since he did that, I been trying to let it go BUT… Everytime I look in the mirror, i can see this BIG permanent mark he left on my chest, I can’t stand him NOW, I believe he’s hateful,bitter and a EVIL BITCH!… I’m kind of mad at myself b/c kept trying to be his friend and it took him to put a permanent mark on me b4 I finally realized that he never was a true friend to begin with. I guess it’s was b/c we were really cool friends in the beginning.(He really wasn’t worth my time) It’s like he would be nice on the phone and BEG ME to come me over to hang-out, then when i come over, It’s like his true colors came out and he turn into a pure asshole… I really want to hurt him now … (PLEASE NO STUPID ANSWERS)…..

  • Clayton Cottrell:

    The ex-girlfriends all live in small towns so it’s hard not keep running into them at community events, church, the local restaurant or taking a walk around town. Since they aren’t living in big cities, everything is on a smaller scale. Most are divorced and haven’t remarried.

  • che-che:

    My boyfriend is best friends with his ex-girlfriends brother I am fine with that but should I be worried about it cause she seems to still like him. And he talks about her driving him insain while they were dating. I just can’t stop thinking what goes on when they are over there.

  • Nick:

    Me and my ex girlfriend recently broke up because of the awkwardness in our relationship. It was a very short relationship of only 2 days. I now like the girls best friend who told my ex I liked her and told me my ex liked me. We talk sometimes and playfully punch each other on the shoulder. But I need to know how to start getting this girl into me and getting her to text me. Any suggestions?

  • Xavier Hawthorne:

    My ex girlfriends moved away and disappeared years ago and they communicate with me but I haven’t see them. I hear of bad stories about them. What are they up to? What do you think I should do about them. They haunt me.

  • Alina Elliott:

    I’ve beginning to realize and see in my dreams the ghosts of my ex girlfriends. Each night it’s a different ex and idk what it means. One dream I had last night all of my ex girlfriends were in the same room as me in the dream. What does all this mean and why am I being haunted?

  • _marky_mark_:

    The ex-girlfriends all live in small towns so it’s hard not keep running into them at community events, church, the local restaurant or taking a walk around town. Since they aren’t living in big cities, everything is on a smaller scale. Most are divorced and haven’t remarried.

  • Maggie:

    my long distance gf of 4 yrs left me in march and went out with another guy but local to her we 3500 miles apart i was gutted, i loved her so much, couple of weeks ago i texted her to say happy birthday, told her how i felt and she said she was single she didnt sleep with him we been chatting again and she wants me to start seeing her again, i so wanna start again on a clean slate but she hurt me alot what do u think i should do

  • veemodz:

    my girl said that she needed a break, but i really love her, we have been together for 5 years, but i kinda do some bad things in our relationship, i know she loves me, but she told me that shes getting tired of me, i want her back, but im afraid that if i gave her some time off, she would not miss me like i do, what should i do?

  • Austin:

    I broke up with her 4 years ago. And she was also my first girlfriend. I love her personality and the way she looks and just the way she is. I seriously think about her all the time. I just want to make things right again. But has it been to long? I need some advice

  • BRUTE:

    So my ex and I talk again after 1 1/4 year of not talking. I told her how i felt and she said she felt the same and that she loved me, but that was for 1 out of the two weeks we have talked. She has a boyfriend, for who she left me for, but sometimes she bitches about how she feels neglected. She texts me late at night and asks if she can call me. I don’t generally respond, but then she calls anyways and I’m too nice to not pick up. Then we end up talking and she sometimes says sweet stuff and its just all confusing me. Should i just leave it all and move on? I mean… i only have till June 22nd till i don’t have to see her in class anymore since we all graduate and go out separate ways. She is staying at a local community college and I’m going to the University across the freeway bridge from where she lives… 7 minutes away :(
    I’m currently talking to her on the phone and she’s saying things like… “we should go to see X-men sometime…” and etc

  • Adam:

    My ex-girlfriend been out town for 10 month now, this Monday we got in to a big fight over something She did, she been on my case over thing’s i haven’t been doing 3 month that we haven’t been together. When we were fighting she told me she slept with other guy. i got angry because she been bugging the sh%t out me for the thing i wasn’t doing to her. So i snap i started to call her names and its was going back an 4th. then i try to be nice to her for this past days, but she been calling me names.i snap again at her. i told her i thought she was going to wait for me to go their and get her, but now am just confuse what i want. Then we stop talking for a few days.

    every time i see her picture i get this weird feeling in my belly, i get all nervous. i don’t know why i feeling this way for her. she doesn’t even care about me. i been their for her so many time.

    How can i stop feeling this way for her? she doesn’t see me their for her.

  • xLittle21Yaox:

    for the record.. i am still in love with my ex.. even though she has bpd.. i did research and read books alas it was after she left me.. however i was talking with some of her friends, and even though she is dating a new guy now she still “likes me”. The last thing i heard from her straight her was “i hate you, your a loser, i wasted a year and half with you, i’m embarrassed, don’t ever talk to me again or i’ll place a restraining order on you.” The day before she broke up with me she was telling me how she wanted to get engaged for christmas and get pregnant this summer? anyhow… anyone have experience with a bpd ex girlfriend? will she come back? I am not talking to her it’s been over a month but i plan to contact her by the time summer rolls around (4 months from now).. I still love her and even though she is dating a new guy i don’t think it will work out.. any suggestions or ideas? we dated for a year and a half and her longest bf before that was like 5 months

  • tjpimpin:

    So it’s been about 4 weeks since we broke up. Her choice and she even said she didn’t have feelings anymore. But she’s been staring at me non-stop. My friend catches her. “Dude, I just caught her hardcore staring at you!” That’s usually what is said. Two or three days ago my brother asked if her why we broke up for her side of the story. His own choice. Then he asked her if she missed me. He said, “she looked said and said ‘yes’. Then I told her to text you cause she really wants to start talking to you again.” I replied and she just said she wanted to talk because we don’t anymore. But that was about it. I have NO CLUE why, but I was expecting her to tell me she missed me first? Plus, today, she’s wearing a sweater I gave her. She’s never worn it during school. And I know it’s because we have class together today. So, I’m wondering, should I just be straight out and admit I miss her? Would coming clean give the possibility of getting together? Is her staring and missing me a sign that she still likes me like she did?

  • Roar me R:

    My ex-girlfriend and I, whom was also my first love, had a wonderful relationship of over 4 years throughout high school years. We broke-up due to life changes and growing up. Recently, her best friend since childhood past away in a car accident.

    The thing is, she is currently in a serious relationship with another man (whom is a terrific and great guy who loves her immensely).

    Would it be rude as ‘the ex-boyfriend’ to contact her by phone or see her in person to give her my condolences, or even possibly show up at the funeral?

    I would hate to intrude or make the situation awkward. What should I do?

  • Terrence:

    I used to live with my gf almost for 4 years, I loved her so much and she loved me too. We were about to get engaged, but at the end we started to have some problems and I kept ignoring her issues. I asked her not to work (as a model and waitress) and I will financially take care of her until she finishes her collage, but she was not that school friendly and thought I am pushing her and won’t love her if doesn’t get her degree. She started to tell me she needs more space, more personal time, she is not happy in life…. I accidentally saw her with a friend mine in street that they were laughing and he was sort of kissing her neck. She told me they started chatting and talking about 3 weeks before that day and he was just telling her that she deserves better and she deserves to be happy… I knew that guy for 5 years and he himself was in a 4-year relationship too. She finally moved out and started to talk that guy, he dumped his gf. My ex finally moved in with him after 4 months that we split and they have been living together for almost 2 years until now. I made a mistake I pushed her alot for the first 4 months after figured out she dumped me to be with him. I kept calling her, emailed her, sent txt to her, until she changed her number and stopped seeing our common friends bc everybody was telling her why she cheated and was not honest to break up before cheating with that guy. I have been in another relationship with a wonderful girl whos is crazy for me for the last 2 years. But, I still miss my ex more than anything, there hasn’t been a single night that I can sleep without having her in mind, there hasn’t been single day waking up without wishing she was next to me. I even think about her when I have sex with my current gf. It isn’t healthy, I know! My ex’s new bf is total loser, no job, no future, no plan,…. I am a very quit guy, when I was with her I barly told her how much I love her and I regret it even though she was more than happiness for me. But this guy is a talker, he keeps telling her what she needs to hear from day to night, I know I made a mistake. My new gf pushes me to get engage, which leaves me with 3 options. Engage with my current gf and deal with my feelings for my ex for rest of my life, send an email to my ex and tell her she still rocks my world and my heart beats for her, or walk out of the current relationship and hope for something that replaces my ex. The last option is not that probable because my current gf is perfect, beautiful, educated, good family, everything a guy should wish for, and the problem is ME and my feelings for my ex, I am stucked in my past, and will kick in with anyone else! what should I do now? should I engage with my gf or send my ex an email, what if she ignores me again and rejects me again!? I am a mess! real mess, I just want peace in heart, what should I do?

  • Mark:

    So my ex girlfriend and i started talking a lot and hanging out again. Things just seemed to click so i asked her if she would ever consider dating again. She said she would highly consider it, so we keep hanging out and things went really well and i could tell there was something more then just a friendship when i looked at her. I talked to her about it again and she said she didnt know and wanted to be friends, then later she said that she didn’t mean that we couldn’t be more then friends later. Girls out there, what does this mean? And how should i react to it?
    I don’t know if she likes anyone else honestly. Tons of guys like her so its kinda rough. Im just absolutely crazy about her right now and i don’t know whats going to happen.
    Sorry i forgot to add the details of our relationship. We dated for about 4 months, it was a clean mutual breakup, and we didn’t really have problems until the end where we broke up for a stupid reason that i think we both regret.

  • JOHN KAISER PHD:

    My girlfriend and broke up about 4 months ago.We dated for 1 1/2 yrs and at the end of the relationship, she said she wasn’t ready to be in a serious relationship. We kept in contact for the first 2 months but I told her that I couldn’t do it because part of me still loved her and now we haven’t spoken in 2 months.I think about her everyday and wonder what’s going on in her life. It was my idea not to talk but I can’t stop thinking about her. When we broke up she told me that there was no one in her life and she just needed a break and figure out things in her life. Part of me wants to pick up the phone and call her but then I wouldn’t even know what to say.Also, I think that if we started talking again, all the feelings for her will come back. I’m looking for opinions and also ways to deal with the situation.I’d love to hear from people in the same situation and also ways of dealing with it. Her birthday is coming up and I thought sending a card would be a good icebreaker. thoughts?

  • Mathew:

    My ex girlfriend and I have been broken up with for 4 months. She broke up with me. In the last 2-3 months she calls me like every 2-3 weeks and tells me that she misses me and things about our relationship. She has been seeing someone else and she has told me more than once that she doesnt like him that much and that they dont have the same connection that we have. About a month ago I stopped taking her calls and havent answered her texts.She saw me a week ago with another girl and she called me at work 2 days later and told me several things about how she misses me and how special I am and then she started crying and told me she wanted to see me, and that she is thinking of leaving the guy she is with, etc. She never acts on her statements, she is all talk and no show, so I told her that I am moving on and that I think it would be best for her not to call me again EVER. When I said that she hung up on me. did I do the right thing? I DO love her very much. What is she doing this for?

  • The Dark Knight:

    so i stole this girl away from her bf of 10 months and she left me to go back to him, although he is a douchebag and has done many things to hurt her..well i didnt want to be friends at first after the break up, and i did horrible things such as burning everything she gave me and telling her about it out of anger…and we both said things to hurt each other…we were best friends before any of this happened..we trusted each other so much and told each other everything…

    she deleted me from her phone and facebook, although i know she still knows my phone number..well i would like to talk to her again, because we were best friends before any of this ever happened..how should i do that? i never thought i would ever want to talk to her again but i see why it is important to. any suggestions?

  • Motordom:

    I am meeting my ex girlfriend for a drink.

    We were together 9 mths she ended things 4 mths ago. It was serious, talk of moving in etc.

    After the split, she contacted me after 1 mth, we met up, shortly after I told her I wanted to be with her. She said she was sure us being apart was right. She said she wanted to be friends. I said I was unsure.

    1 mth later I rang her up. She was evasive about meeting up and said she’d let me know. She later texted & said we “couldn’t meet up right now as it wouldn’t be fair on the person she was seeing”.

    I wrote her an e-mail 2 wks later and said I still cared about her, was fine with things ending, happy to be friends, was dating someone else (I had been but have now ended it) and said it would be good to see her sometime.

    I expected her to maybe text back and say “give me a call sometime”. I didn’t expect what happened!

    She rang me up. She talked at me for 20 mins and we arranged to meet up. Why does she now want to meet up??
    Also, when we spoke on the phone. I asked her if she was seeing anyone, she said no, she asked me if I was, I said yes. I am not “with anyone” but have been dating.

    Why the sudden interest in meeting me??

    I would like her back!! What do I do?

  • musicistabest:

    It’s September 07th Saturday Afternoon, I’m at work with zero hours of sleep and im telling my self today seems a bit interesting. So i tell my co-worker like i have this weird gut feeling today that my ex-girlfriend is somehow going to comeback in to my life, but i tried to disregard it because I thought it was stupid I’ve been in no contact for 4 months and practically moved on with my life with no regrets.

    So check it out my shift ended at 7:30 p.m and I’m doing fine and dandy and then a light struck in my head, that I should check my phone? WEIRD HUH? well guess what i received a email from my Ex (WHAT THE EFF WORD?!?!)

    so to summarize it, she emails me

    “Hey I wanted to see how you’re doing and your mom is doing. Just recently my mom just got sick and It’s been hard lately. I wanted to know how yours is doing because something told me i should ask. You don’t have to answer back”

    Now my first reaction is ummmmm right my mom? She did have a somewhat friendly relationship with her to where my mom made her a damn scarf and pink because it’s her favorite color, but she really somehow just FELT like she had to ask me how my moms doing? Of course my conceited self took it as she wants to fool around again or she just wants my comfort because I was a good boyfriend just too stubborn and prideful when it came to certain things within our relationship (Also lies and deceit were part of our relationship not on my part though) So ladies help me out here em I right on the dot 100%? or is she trying to attempt another relationship with my awesome self :) Jk

    The real question I’m asking is, what could she be after. She can’t be keeping tabs on me because we barely have any mutual friends let alone if she wanted to get back together this is a poor way of doing so (However Im not ready to get back neither do i have any interest in doing so now or the future)

  • Thomas Lopez:

    Hey, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2years now. He told me when we going out for about 4months that, he wanted to marry me and it was on the tip of his tounge, he never did ask properly, as we had only been going out for a little while. We recently had a converstion about marrige, and i sed i wud marry him tomorrow if he asked, and he turned round and said, I love you, but i wont ever ask you to marry me unless i feel the spark wen we first got together, he said you get a feeling when you want to marry sumone or be with someone. I get buttiflies just lookng at him, isnt that a funny feeling. I honesltly do belive he love me, he treats me well. But i want him to just fall 4 me all over again not so he asks me to marry him but so we can hav spark. I was looking at his facebook and his ex girlfriend who he had been with for 8years had written we was almost married, still love him and still bestfriends, i gt parinod and im scared that ill push him away futher! HELP!

  • Sophia C:

    she broke up with me around 4 months ago and i got really sad and angery because she woundnt give back my stuff and i was being really mean to her and she told me she hates me. and after that we havnt talke for like 4 months. she dosnt even look at me at school. conpletely ignores me. she has a new boyfriend and i really want her back! she use to tell me she loves me more then anything……
    and im afraid that if i start talking to her again i might push her farer away

    her best friend told me she broke up with me because she thinks im gross and not good in bed….

    please help me out i donno what to do… i was planning on trying to talk to her on msn but i donno what to say to her…
    we went out for 4 months

  • ericmreitz:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me 4 months ago, she said she lost feelings for me, and wanted to be single. I have gradually gotten over it and realized that maybe the relationship was not cracked up to what I thought it was. The relationship was long distance-she lived and hour an half away. It was difficult to spend time together. Other than that we did enjoy each other’s company. She says she wants to be friends, but does not see us getting back together. But she is still single, and we still email each other and talk online. Remaining friends is different for her because her past two relationships have ended badly, with her ex’s not talking to her at all. But she has spent more time in relationships than being single. This was my first relationship, and I have started to date again. Someone did tell me once that women eventually desire what they don’t have anymore. Since she was the one who ended the relationship, should I tell her that I am dating again?

  • Elijah luv:

    My girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago. And no, we did not break up because of infidelity. She’s trying to figure out college and stuff and said she just needs to be single right now. But I’m just confused by her actions. She does not want contact with me, and will not answer my calls. So I have stopped calling. I will give her space and let her come to me first.

    What I don’t understand is that she told me about a week ago that she didn’t want to break up and that she still loves me and she was really upset about doing it. Now she’s cold about it. She’s shutting me completely out of her life. How can she be so upset one minute, then rude and standoffish the next? I know she still looks at my myspace and shit like 3-4 times a day. Does she just need time to relax and think? She still loves me…you don’t throw away 2 and a 1/2 years of your life without blinking. She’s just been really stressed lately and I don’t feel like she’s herself…she’s doing things on impulse.
    I know I annoyed her by calling her…but why would she keep checking up on me and everything if she didn’t care about me?

  • Matthew S:

    my friend just broke up with his gf and now she is telling me that she wants to kill herself. WTF do I do? How come I got dragged in please help.

  • crzyinluv:

    My ex girlfriend and I broke up about 8 months ago because she was moving across the country. We we were high school sweethearts and were together for 4 years. After she moved we still talked regularly for awhile but recently she got a new boyfriend. When we were together I will admit I wasnt the greatest bf and I regret the way I treated her because I know that if I was a really good bf she wouldnt have left. Ever since she left I have felt severely depressed and that my world got turned upside down. I cant help it but I seriously dream about her every single night and think about her every single day. If I could do it all over again I would have been a way better bf and started a family with her. I dont even really know what kind of response im hoping for I just feel like I cant imagine the rest of my life without her and I know im sounding like some emo guy or something that im not at all but I just dont know what to do without her. Im serious when I say that the only thing I think about is her, if she still lived here I would do anything to have her back . I feel like im becoming an alcoholic because when I drink at night its the only time my mind stops thinking about her just for a couple hours. Sorry to ramble on about some bs problem with a girl who probably doesnt ever think about me anymore but she just seems like such a huge part of my life that I cant fathom going on without her next to me. So I guess any advice you have is better than none, thanks for the response its much appreciated.

  • SteveO:

    We went out for a year and we were definitely eachothers first loves. She broke up with 4 months ago. Shes been dating this new kid for almost 3 months. I told her never to talk to me or call me again. I was going to fight this kid a week ago (thats a whole different story). Somehow, she found out and she texted me asking me if i was okay and that she was worried about me and that I should talk to her about it. I never answered and the next day she texted me again and said “Fine, sorry for caring, bye.” I didnt answer that either. apparently she was asking my friends about me and the fight too. I dont want her pity, im done with her. She seems happy without me too. Im just curious as to why shes doing these things.

  • Jeracoo L:

    Alright guys and ladies I know this might be a bit long but please find it in your heart to hear me out…

    Best answer will be chosen and I will give out points if I can…

    Basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. We’ve known each other since high school for 4 years and dated for 2 and a half years. We’re now both at the same college. We’re also currently friends (Or we’re trying our best to be)

    Around 4 months ago I introduced my ex-girlfriend to my ex-friend which I regret doing to this day. Now at the time my ex and I were having problems and my ex-friend was also having problems with his girlfriend. To make a long story short basically my ex and my ex-friend ended up kissing each other and my ex spending the night at his apartment (There was no sex or so my ex said)

    Despite all this, my ex says that she still loves me and she regrets what she did to me. She said that she wanted a future with me only and that she only had a crush on my ex-friend. Also, she said that she doesn’t trust him because my ex-friend basically wanted more with my ex while still dating his girlfriend at the time.

    However, despite all this, my ex girlfriend still talked to him when he talks to her first through text messaging or AIM. I’ve told her a lot of times that I was a little bit jealous and uncomfortable with her doing this because I got hurt with what she did to me before. Unfortunately, she tells me that she doesn’t want to fight my battles for me since I don’t talk to my ex-friend anymore and that she doesn’t have a problem with him and that’s why she is still friendly with him. He’s the only person I don’t want her talking to but she still does.

    Yesterday, my ex-friend called my ex and told her that his girlfriend just dumped him which pisses me off because he also asked where my ex-girlfriend and I stood right now. Was that rude? She literally shrugged off his question and changed the subject. He also kept literally asking what she was doing even though his girlfriend just dumped him earlier that morning.

    Today, my ex-girlfriend and I got into a fight today because I told her that I felt uncomfortable when she talks to him. Basically, she burst into tears when I told her that if she couldn’t do it then I wouldn’t trust her with bigger things because this is ridiculous. That’s when she kicked me out.

    I feel really down about this and I don’t know what to do. Was it right for me to be jealous? Does my ex-girlfriend still care about me even with all those things she did? What should I do now? What will happen later? I don’t want to leave her because I’m still very much in love with her…

    If you can analyze each paragraph for me it would be greatly appreciated

    -Broken-Hearted Man

  • Jermaine J:

    Well, i meet this girl from my church and we started dating, for a month. we were both 17 at the time. Now, i was despreate because i had broken up with my other girl of a year and wanted to get into another relationship. ill say that I was desperate, while she was in a sence ‘not ready’ for a relationship, but we went anwyays. 20 days later we broke up.

    So, I see her on and off. I’ve told her that I truly had feelings and she said ‘awwe luis you’ll find the right one’ and ‘i love you as a friend’ and stuff like that. and, i stopped the despreateness once i realised it but, still am attracted to her. ect.

    See, heres the thing, about three weeks ago, i get a txt ‘luis, i still love you’ then she dropped it and never txt me again.
    I meet her parents, and they liked me. I just had a postivie attidude.

    Well today i etnerd church, and was soo tierd [4 hour sleep]. They thought i had a hangover and kept giving me bad looks [her dad]. And i kept being rude to my ex and ignoring her.
    i dont drink or smoke, my whole question is here, what should I do to a) get her attracted to me and B) get the awakward moments when i see her at church [going to costa rica with her + my church + her parnets [22 people].

    Any advice helps. we dated the 20 days back in february.

  • Benihana:

    So bear with me… this is a very complicated story… I’ll start from the beginning. I met her about 4 years ago in High School. We have everything in common and are still best friends. During the relationship I always did everything I could to show her how much she means to me… writing her cute notes randomly.. buying her flowers.. I gave her a puppy for us to raise together.. Buying her things I just know she’d love so much.. taking her places she wants to go.. She also did her fair share of loving. But we became everything to each other, best friends and lovers until the very end, that was the promise. I wasn’t the best boyfriend I could be though.. I used to get jealous of her talking to guys and ask her to stop.. or accuse her of flirting over stupid crap. I needed to trust her more..Even through all of this.. she stuck with me.. waiting for me to change so we could be happy. So recently, about 2 weeks ago, we had a falling out. I honestly wanted to start showing her how much I trust her and appreciate her, because she began to tell me that we should do more things that she likes. So I planned on taking her to see New Moon (she likes the books), and she came late.. so it kind of upset me that she’d want to do things like this together.. but then act like it’s not all that important to her. So we fought..and she left upset. The next day she acted fine for the first part of the day, then told me that she didn’t want to go out anymore.. I barely spoke to her for the rest of that night. The next day after my friends had left, I went to her apartment to see what was going on.. she seemed completely fine.. when I got home she called me drunk (she had never had alcohol before) to tell me how I wasn’t that good at making her happy.. but I really did do everything.. I feel so unappreciated..she told me that she’d given me so many chances to change before, that she just got fed up. She has started to fill in the gap with new friends to help her get over the situation.. It seems losing everything you have is a good incentive to change.. and I can honestly say that my jealousy issues are gone now.. because I’d do anything for this girl, and I will wait for her forever. I’ve never met anyone quite like her. She even sees that I’ve beat myself up enough to become the person she had wanted from the start.. and that we still have feelings for each other.. but it seems no matter how hard I try, she just wants to get over me. So as of right now.. we’re just best friends.
    I don’t know what to do.. I just wish I could have a chance to prove myself this time.. but it seems like she will never give it to me. If I let go of her, she might realize how much she loves me and come back.. but it seems sort of unlikely.. I just need advice, there must be a way to win my little girl’s heart back.

    UPDATE: After writing this, my best friend told me that she talked to him a bit after we broke up, telling him that she wanted us to be friends, so that when we get back together we’d be better than before. However, she then took it back a few days later, and since has been telling me how she just wants to be friends, and that she still cares about me but does not want to be with me. Sigh..

    To make it short and simple.. I messed up during the relationship, and she always stuck by me waiting for me to change. This time she got fed up and left, being without her has helped me see it through her eyes.. and I honestly would never make the same mistakes again and risk losing her. We lacked communication though, I really wish I knew that it was bugging her so much, but I still take full responsibility for it. I just wish there was some way to regain her faith in us as a couple..

  • Marshal:

    broke up (second time) and didnt talk for ~4 weeks. I called her after that month and a week later, we slept together (no sex, but when we woke up we kissed some) , went to lunch, and went to a movie with each other where she grabbed my hand. This weekend I’m taking her out on a double date with my best friend.

    If I want to start things back up with her what should I do?

    I dont want to rush things and tell her how I feel because after the second time we broke up, I said somethings similiar to ‘I really love you, its just bad timing.’ She knows how I feel,, I don’t know if she wants me back.

    How can I spark up some of that old attraction she had for me? Someone told me I should call her only 1-2 times a week. Good?

    gimme some tips on how you won back your ex? or on how your ex won you back?

  • Jenna:

    My boyfriend and his ex girlfriend went out for almost a year off and on. they even got pregnant but she lost it. Well me and boyfriend been going out for 3 months. So they broke up about 4 months a go. well my boyfriend ex girlfriend text him and told him that she wants to talk about being friends again. I going to let him go but something in me tells me not to trust the whole thing i feel nothing of anger and fear. I think it is wrong. They shouldn’t talk since they had a romantic past. Idk what to do since i feel i have no way out of this cause i swer if he goes with her again i don’t know what i’ll do i feel so anger ; ( what should i do??

  • Ray D:

    So my ex and I have been broken up for two years now. I’ve still been in love with her ever since then..

    We recently have been seeing each other a lot now. At first, we used to never talk (which tore me up), then we’d slowly get back to talking then i’d **** up and she’d get mad, thus having her not talk to me anymore. We’d hangout one day, then not see each other for another month or so for god knows why. We then started to see each other every here and there then bam, we hangout a lot.

    She was in a relationship during our two year seperation, I was in several (no one could ever quite fill in what my ex could) and recently decided I can’t date anyone else other than her. Her boyfriends dumped her for asshole reasons about a few months ago and she just told me how she isn’t in love with him anymore after she told him she’d wait for him (while he goes around and ***** other broads, openly).

    We went camping once almost two months ago with her and her friends and one night, she started cuddling with me and held my hand (even grabbed my *** the funny way she used to do when we dated). The next day, she completely didn’t even acknowledge what happened. Acted like nothing happened.

    More recently, about a couple days ago, we hung out and sat in a car. We were both in the back seat and she laid against me, eventually laid ontop of me. My right arm was on the seat because I didn’t know what to do with it, but she grabbed it and held my hand, gentley stroked my arm the way she’d used to.. What does this mean?

    Even more recently, about 4 days ago, we hung out at a park alone at night and just talked about..everything. We talked about our relationship, her’s and her ex’s relationship and how she isn’t in love with him anymore. How she admires her best friend, etc. When we were talking about our relationship, she would keep on telling me how amazing it was being with me. Like, she told me I was the only person and relationship that made her feel like “I wasn’t on earth.” That our relationship was so special and genuine and COMPLETELY straight up The Notebok status (not even exaggerating, we almost did everything they did in that movie before seeing it). She was actualy flirting with me a lot. She told me I looked cute with my stubble and how I made a really cute face. We walked down to my brother’s house at night and she grabbed and hugged my arm while doing so. I showed her this house I thought was cute and she agreed in a very cute way. All of these things I just mentioned would make you think the girl likes me, right?

    Idk. She is different. I wouldn’t exactly call er a flirt, but that’s only because she doesn;t flirt with random people or with anyone, really. Unless she knows them very well. I know she thinks this one guy in her class is very cute, never talks to him though.

    I’m scared. Idk what to do. I’m afraid if I tell her my feelings she’d walk away. I’m going to wait awhile and see what happens. We hung out on thursday, that was the day she laid ontop of me, but after that, we haven’t hung out. I know it’s saturday but when I texted her to she what she was doing or if we’d have an all nighter with her friends tonight, she wouldn’t reply back for awhile, but eventually did and told me she couldn’t hang out, but wouldn’t answer back when I asked what she’s doing. She even had the all nighter without me. I’m so confused!

  • Brendan O:

    I was dating an amazing girl for about a year and a half. We had an incredible relationship until about March 2012. I was getting bogged down in a college major I wasn’t happy with, and I took a lot of my frustration out on her.

    The next month, she started getting distant, and asked if we could take a break from the relationship. I thought that might be good for us, since we were having a rough month. However, I discovered that the whole time she had been planning this break, she was starting to flirt with a guy from her hometown who she had a high school crush on.

    I found out about this and I was livid with her for what I considered a disrespect to our relationship. We talked about it though, and she said that even if she wasn’t with this guy, she still wanted to be single during the summer. So I let her go for about a month.

    After I found out she had been on a couple of dates with this high school crush, I went NC for about two weeks, and spent that time improving myself for the next time we met. I began working out, switched my major in college, started trying new things, and just being a really happy person. She sent me an email in that time saying how sorry she was for everything, and that she wanted me to let her back into my life as a friend one day, when I was ready. I didn’t talk to her again until she called one night asking me to talk to her. She had experienced a really stressful and emotional day and said I was the only person she felt safe talking to about it. At this point, we stopped NC and started talking almost every day.

    I never knew for sure, but she told me that she hadn’t gone out with her high school crush since the first two times I found out about it, but still spoke to him every now and then. She doesn’t tell me she likes him, but she says things like “We’re progressing slowly”. At this point though, if she really hasn’t gone back out with him, it doesn’t sound like they’re making progress.

    In the recent weeks, our conversations became a lot more intimate, and some of them hinted at ways we could improve a new relationship. Even though she would talk about how glad she is that we are still friends, she also gave off a lot of physical signs she was becoming interested again (fidgeting with her hair, finger in her mouth, etc), and even said “I love you” occasionally. She also initiated contact most days and we would talk for hours into the night. I took this as a sign we were starting to move in the right direction.

    I told her that if a day ever came that she wanted a second chance, I would probably give it to her, but that I don’t feel as “in love” with her as I did before.

    One day, though, I messed up and let slip that I still had feelings for her. At the mention of this, she got extremely upset, and began yelling at me for not stopping her when she began flirting with me. I simply told her that I was sorry, and that I would back off and that it wouldn’t happen again. She feels extremely guilty now for breaking up, for flirting behind my back, and now for leading me on. She told me that night that in the moment, she wasn’t interested in getting back together, but that she might be someday, and not to wait for her. After that, we hung up without any goodbyes.

    I’m so confused about all of the signals she is sending me, saying she doesn’t want to get back together, but also treating me like someone she’s trying to start back up with. I have a few theories about what she wants, but none of these might be the case:

    1. We live in different states, but go to college together. She might want to get back together, but not until we can physically be in the same space. This isn’t until January 2013 though.

    2. She is still interested in her hometown crush this summer, and is holding that door open until she gets him or finds out she never will.

    3. She’s put me in some kind of friend zone and is sugarcoating it as much as she can. She is a very sympathetic person and cares a lot about my feelings, so she might think that flat-out saying “no” will break my heart.

    4. She legitimately isn’t ready to try again, and knows it, but wants to.

    Please help me make sense of this mess. Right now she is still my best friend in the world, and I’m trying everything I can to fix this.

  • Zack Faria:

    I have been together with my ex girlfriend for the past 5 years up until March 21st of this year. We’ve been through a lot together but have made it through almost every obstacle possible. We had plans to get married, start a family and grow old together. We promised each other we’d be together forever. That was until she came home for spring break. We spent every day together at her house watching tv and movies. Towards the end of the break things got a little weird, I can’t explain why or how but there was less contact. I said my goodbyes before she left to go back to school and that was it. Within a few days back at school she had said we needed to talk and I just knew it wouldn’t be good. Long story short we are now broken up for a little over a month now and she has found someone else. She told me she can’t get over the fact I cheated on her 3 yrs ago and that she simply has fallen out of love with me. This doesn’t make any sense to me being that she called me a few weeks ago asking me how I was honestly holding up and how she misses me so bad and wants to come back but she wants to try and remain strong. I later found out she was a little tipsy at that time and has since apologized for making that call b/c it only got my hopes up for us to be a couple again. Since the break up I have given her, her space completely. At first, the initial shock of the break up got to me and I would text her often saying I can’t believe this was happening and go on to tell her how saddened and weak I had become. She told me that texting her wasn’t going to do any good. After a few more weeks, I have grown a little stronger but still miss her immensely. Now we live .2 miles away from ea other but she has decided she’d be living in RI for the summer, yet again. This same thing happened last yr around the same time. Last spring she broke up with me bc I was treating her poorly, found someone else early summer then broke up with him in Aug to be with me. She has admitted that since then up until the recent break up that I have ben absolutely perfect! She’ll be home for a week early May to give me back my belongings. How should I act towards her? Shoud I tell her how I want to be with her again? Do I pretend nothing’s wrong and put on a front? She has made a point in telling me we’re not hanging out that she’s just giving me back my stuff and that’s it..that she would never do anything to hurt her new bf. She did say she would hang out with me in a group setting. My Birthday is tomorrow. Do I ignore her birthday wishes she told me she was going to send? I blocked her and her friends on fb after she deleted me as a friend. She told me she couldn’t bare to look at my page. I deactivated my twitter and blocked her and her friends on instagram. Is ignoring her in my best interest? I’m trying to see if that would stir up some curiousness in her and make her miss me. I’ve always been there at her first calling b/c I am pretty vulnerable. I wonder if I become a ghost if that would make her eager to want to know what I may be up to who I may be with. I wonder if that would make her go crazy. About 3 weeks ago, she called and I didn’t answer on purpose and shot her with a text saying “now’s not a good time.” And she went bizerk wondering what I was doing and who I was with. This sort of thing gets to her. To give you an idea on how she really is a caring person and not completely cold hearted, I told her I found a hidden note she had left me over the summer in my shoe and she asked what it read and then began to cry. I believe she still has feelings for me, I just need to figure out a way to bring them out of her and make them feel real again. We saw ‘The Vow’ together. She made a point in pointing out the quote that reads, “I vow to love you, and no matter what challenges might carry us apart, we will always find a way to get back to each other.” 2 years ago she told me that no matter how bad things may seem, to always fight for her. That we will always end up back together. My friends and family have advised me to move on plenty of times but I can’t picture my life without this girl. We’ve both came to terms with our feelings and have agreed it’s true love. Please no negative feedback here b/c I have already heard it. I need some positive answers here. I’ve won her back before when times seemed absolutely impossible. I just need this extra push to get her back in my arms again.. This May will be the first time we see each other since 2 months. What do ya got for me guys. Btw I’m turning 22. She’s 21.

  • Kaylla:

    Hi i could do with some Advice.

    Basically i was going out with my Ex Girlfriend for 22 months and it was going strong. She lives 45 min’s away from me and is a City girl. And i loved the drive to go see her or when she came to see me but it was only once a week on a Sunday. It used to be 2 days for the first 10 months but she started University and so did i but i quit after 6 weeks, found a job then found out they could not keep me on no more so im jobless and been on benifits for 6 months.. Make a short story short the first 5 months being jobless and her at University where going great, She is tackling a night Job also 6-9pm 3 days a week, so it ment we could only see eachother every Sunday or the whole Weelend if we where Lucky..

    Basicaly i went on holiday with family for a week she didnt seem like she was missing me when i was over there and even said it herself, this confused me, but she also said cant wait to see you again. After two days home i was on the phone to her after my dads Birthday meal and she was really quiet.. She wanted to talk to me but not down the phone she wanted to see me on the Weekend to tell me. But i couldnt put up with having thoughts in my head for 3 days and it turning out bad, plus a 45 min drive when your really upset is a bad idea. So Calmly i talked her around and she said.. I dont love or want to be with you no more, dont know what the future holds, ive realised we have nothing in common… I got upset as you do and she FINISHED with me that night. A week went buy and i didnt text her, the only time i did was when i had an OPERATION and she knew i was having it (Just texted her to say it went well, she texed me back, she also finished her placement at a school to for Uni) After that i did the no NO CONTACT.

    And ive been doing it for 3 weeks now i havent tried or attempted to talk to her since my OP, I have deleted her Facebook and her family members Facebook this week but didnt tell her why due to NC rule and to feel better for me because with her friends taking pics at uni and stuff (hard to look at them). All those memories are away in my draws (Photos, Cards) and i have saved all my phone stuff including her contacts and pics to my laptop and deleatd them off my phone.

    I 75% want her back 25% dont. Am i doing right with the No contact option? She did finish me and i think im doing right by not doing it. Im going out with my mates and the Gym keeping busy, she went out wih her friends for a clubbing weekend i think, i have no idea what went off, there where just pictures i couldnt see on her Facebook b4 i deleated her because her friends picture albums where set to friends only.

    I KNOW THIS IS A LONG STORY BUT I COULD JUST REALLY USE SOME ADVISE ON MY SITUATION!!!!.

    My Birthday is 2 weeks away so i was wondering see if she will contact me and continue doing the NO CONTACT..

    Hope You can understand what i said, its my first time with this YAHOO thing!!

    Thanks
    3 hours ago – 4 days left to answer.
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    I dont think she would have her eyes on someone else! I think University and work was more important to her, stress got to her i think and i hope!!

    Any more help!!

    PS: all ready posted this question just need more help!!

  • Sriram R:

    She broke up over a lame reason, she still had feelings, I begged and pleaded for one day. I just appeared desperate (by logging into her FB again and again, she had login notifications enabled) and pushed her further away. She contacted me 3-4 times after the break up, then one day I ask her is it really over, she said yes. Then I went no contact. 5 days later she wishes me happy new year, i wished her the same. 12 days later I wished her some lame festival. 2 days later I accidentally sent a text to her(nothing special, was talking and abusing my friend), I told her it was by mistake and not to get her attention and went no contact again. 2 days later she talks to my friend (girl on facebook), asks her does she know her (my friend added her), although my ex knew her. Idk why she asked that and they had a short convo. 1 week now, after the last text and we haven’t talked. I fear that she’ll forget me, may find someone else. But I think she won’t at least till 4 months from now because she is going to some other city and thats the reason we broke up and she won’t commit to other guy. My cousin says I should wait 2 weeks, then she’ll miss me.
    She called today, but I didn’t pick up :D :D I plan on calling her tommorow

  • Gabriel Kenney:

    So, I broke up with my ex-girlfriend around 4 months ago. I know, it’s a long time, and I know that I should try to move on, but I can’t.

    You see, I have been in relationships before, but I have never truly fallen for the girl i’ve been with. I guess what i’m saying is that, my ex-girlfriend is the only person that i’ve even fallen in love with!
    We fought for the majority of the 4 months, and I told her how sorry I was for being the reason that we broke up, and why I was so nervous around her. (Because she was the first person I fell in love with). But she still never took me back.

    About a week ago, she popped up to me on MSN and said “We should stop fighting with eachother, because it’s making the people around us angry and uncomfortable”. We were friends before we got together, so we share the same group of friends. She also said “I want us to be friends again, because we were like best friends before we messed our friendship up by dating”. I’ve heard that becoming friends with your ex-girlfriend is a bad idea… but the truth is; I love her too much to actually let her go completely. So I agreed to stop fighting, and agreed that we should try and be friends again.

    She has said before that “I’m sorry, I just don’t see this going anywhere at the moment… who knows, maybe in the future we could happen again, but for now, I just want friendship. I’m not ready for a relationship”. She has also admitted before that she didn’t want to end things like she did, and she WANTED our relationship to work out, and in theory, it SHOULD have worked out, but she needed to end it, because I never treated her like she deserved to be treated.

    I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. We’ve been talking, and it almost feels like it did before we started dating, and i’m glad about that… but I can’t help feeling that I want her so badly!

    I’ve really taken our break-up badly, AND I’M ONLY 17!! I think it’s because she is the first person I fell in love with? What do you think?
    I know that it sounds like it’s a dead-end, and we’ll never get back together… but I just can’t accept that. I’m not being stubborn, I just still have really strong feelings for her! : ( I’m normally a REALLY happy guy, really fun to be around, but these last 4 months? I haven’t been the same at all. I’ve been moaping around the house, staying in ALL the time. Turning down invitations to go out with friends. And just overall not being me.

    I’ve beaten myself up so much over this, that I don’t actually think I could take any more pain at this point in my life.
    I love her so much, and I don’t want to let her go!
    Is there something I could do to show her just how much I love her? As i’ve said before, i’ve told her how I feel. Basically told her what i’ve told you, but she doesn’t seem to think it’s the right time for HER to be in a relationship. Does this mean there is still hope? If I continue to be friends with her for a few more months… maybe wait until next year, could there still be a chance for me and her to happen again?

    I just don’t know what to do! : ( I’ve never felt this way before!!

    Please, help me : (
    Thanks to anyone who does help!! Really, i’d really apreciate it, because I know this took a lot of time to read! Thank you so much!

  • forahobby:

    My ex girlfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. She contacts me about evry 2 weeks or so and I am trying to move on. Recently she saw me with another girl and even though she is seeing someone else she called me and started crying, a lot, and told me that she misses me and that she has been thinking of leaving the guy she is with, she also said that we have a great connection and that I am a very special person. The only thing is she doesnt act on these statements, she just tells me these things and then she won’t contact again until like a week or 2 later. Why is she doing this? She knows I’m trying to move on and have to a certain extent. I just dont understand what she gets out of this. Is there any chance she does want me back or is she just playing games? Like I said I dont understand what she would be getting out of her calling me and not letting me move on. She always makes me think that she is on the verge of coming back to me, but she never does. What to do and think????

  • MAK & CHEESE:

    ex girlfriend issues, please take your time to read. needing help!
    !.
    i was with my girlfriend for 4 years, she lived with me we got on really well we loved eachother to bits, never cheated. for bout 4 weeks we just stayed in as i was tired from work, this lead to me get to me getting abit bored.
    so i wanted to go and see my friends, because being with her that long i never saw them, and i really enjoyed seeing them, still do. one night i got in from my mates, and i had really bad toothache didn’t want to speak really had bad headache as well. she wanted to talk about why i’d been out with my friends all time and not been with her. i didn’t want to talk she got mad saying ” you don’t want me anymore do you” and “your cheating on me” a got mad with that as i loved her to bits she got mad obviusly. and lashed out at me, and started hitting me. that was it for that i told her to f**k off n that i didn’t want to see her ever again. for two – three weeks she texted me and rung me saying she love me and she’s sorry. i liked an idiot ignored her. after the three weeks of me meeting girls and stuff she got the idea and she started meeting this lad i got jealous and wanted her back but didn’t make out like i was bothered. i met her to talk bout things and ended up begging her back and crying lol. i text her and text her then nothing she said it wouldn’t work not again. so i tryed to get on with my life and go out with my mates. constantly thinking about her. she used to come round to see my mum because they were good friends. and she used to come up to see me if i was in and talk then we had a hug after. this happened five times. bearing in mind she is seeing a lad. the sixth time she came round she ended up stoping at mine we kissed and had sex, the next day i was at work she text me saying ” had a really good night last night. please don’t say anything to anyone” meaning don’t want her new man knowing. from then on nothing has happened it has been her birthday i saw on facebook her boyfriends took her out for her birthday and bought her loads of presents i didnt even texted happy birthday to her. ive jus been really sour with her because i’m p**sed off. the last i heard from her was last week when she text me on her birthday saying “happy birthday thanks” sarcasticly. thats it lol!! what on earth can i do or say???? had to go into detail sorry its just an awkward thing. please help whatever you have to say is helpful. Thank you
    anything! what to say to her… what to do with myself… i do really want her back

  • HASTHEANSWERS:

    I asked an ex girlfriend to marry me in 2008. We were broken up for about three months at the time, but I couldn’t get her out of my mind. When I asked her to marry me she told me she was dating a much older guy (about 10 yrs older) turns out she was pregnant with this guy whom she’d known for only about 3 or 4 months. They got married and I went my own way.

    We hadn’t talked until she called me in September 2010 to see how I was doing and apologize for the way things ended between us. Then she went dark again and we didn’t talk.

    Until this week. She just called me a few days ago. She said she was thinking about me yada yada yada. Again, she is still married.

    Clearly somethings not right for her to pick up the phone and reach out to me. Is her relationship not working out with her husband?

    I can’t get this girl out of my mind and I still have feelings for her.

    Thanks for your input

  • Disrae:

    Me and my ex dated for almost 5 years. She dumped me because she wasn’t happy and chose to be happy over being in love. She supposedly hasn’t been happy in the past 4 months. We work together but the first 2 she seemed so happy at work. My boss even saw it. But now that I’m doing better and am happy and finally myself at work, she’s a mess. My boss sees her as unhappy and can’t even look at her sometimes.

    I made her something the other day so we could get past our differences and get along. But then she started “leading me on” again by hinting at having something to talk about, and hinting at hanging out. Then I confront her about it and it goes over okay. Then she gets into how unhappy and how hard moving on is for her. She tells me she’s trying to get her own closure and that’s what she’s coming to me for. (Even though I had to give it to myself and find it for myself and I’m finally not a mess.) She tells me I’m not good for her but when I’m ask in curiousity why not, she can’t answer. Says I’m inconsiderate when I sit there and give her advice on how to move on. And things blew up.

    At work that day she tried to upset me. Bring up **** like how she wants to move on because she has people she has to turn down because she is still in love with me. But why should I hear that. Then when I have **** to say, she ignores me because she’s busy. I’m so tired of being there only when she wants me there. She made her mess and she should have to find her way out of it right?

    I don’t ever see her being happy. I almost want to take my gift of peace and friendship back because she is being so inconsiderate of how I feel too. She gives me excuses about how she’s not my girlfriend so she doesn’t have to answer me. It pisses me off so much.

    I haven’t moved on completely but I’ve realized a future without her and am excited about it. I don’t need a girlfriend or any other girls to be happy. This was more of a vent but I’m just wondering what you guys think

  • airdogspace2:

    so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months now.. before me he had been in a two year relationship with a girl who made him soo unhappy that he had done some pretty terrible things to her to get out of the relationship.. over all he is actually a sweet guy, probably the nicest guy i have meet or dated. hes defiantly a keeper but the thing is i feel like he is int over his ex.. he tells me all the time that he is but i dont know.. he has already called me by her name not just once but twice!! the first time we were play fighting and he called me her name.. i was soo sad i thought i was going to cry and he felt so bad that he promised me he would never call me that again.. but sure enough just the other day when he went to call for me he called me it agian.. im not sure what to do.. what would you do if your boyfriend called you by his ex girlfriends name.. am i just over reacting?

  • Stevalicious:

    Ok my ex girlfriend and i have started talking again after 4 months of silence, she broke up with me after 7 months of dating, she said “i love you but we have no time for eachother, its best if were apart”

    - She had coffee with me last monday and we talked for like an hour, and i explained i still liked her, and blah blah

    - she said “im not really looking for a relationship” – BUT shes not the friends with benefits type

    - i told her i wanna take her out next tuesday for dinner and a movie, and she said yes

    - she wants to come to a new years party with me, im the only ones she knows so she will be drunk and around me all night

    My Question: How do i act on this TUESDAY DINNER/MOVIE DATE? (hard to get? friendly?)
    ———-> DOes she seem interested? by saying yes to seeing me 3 times in 2 weeks? i cant read her… maybe shes playing hard to get? or just being friendly?

  • Rkmc:

    Hey I’m 26 and living in London.
    Im having a dilemma with an ex of me. Can someone give me a bit of advice or tips on what I should do?

    Introduction out of the way first, 4 years ago I was introduced to a girl through my friend. We got on great and went out for a month or so and then went our separate ways. About a year later we got back talking and we were boyfriend/girlfriend. She then got accepeted to a year long university course in America, we said we would stay together. We did for a few weeks and I broke it off once I heard she had slept with another fella a few days after arriving in America.

    She is home now and we have had a few late night meetings. A few times she has banged on my door in the middle of the night looking for me, blowing up my phone with messages and missed calls. One night she went to my workplace while I wasn’t working and urged my colleagues to give her my number so she could contact me.

    Last week she told me that she’s afraid she’ll never meet anyone like me ever again. How its tearing her apart not been with me. She say she is still attracted to me after all this time. She even said the best sex she ever had was with me. I still feel have some sort of feelings for her.

    I don’t know what to do. She’s the only girl I’ve ever loved but at the same time I don’t know if I can trust her. Should I try it again with her? Or should I just move on? I tried my best to meet other women, keeping myself busy with work etc, but I still have not met anyone that has made me feel as good like she did.

    Thanks for reading.
    Cheers.

  • Shay H:

    My girlfriend was cheating on me behind my back in November by talking to her ex for 2 months behind my back and in school a few times without me knowing. I found out in January and we got back together and we we’re going fine until April 4th 2012.

    On this day I went on her twitter and I found out she followed him and he followed her which meant they could see each others lives, talk to each other and all of that again. When I found out I left her but I went to her house to give her stuff back. I asked her ‘why did you follow him?’ and she said ‘because I just wanted more followers’. She did it at a sleepover with her friend and she said her and Jessica were just getting more followers for her and he was there. I believed this but we are still over and on a break away from each other. This morning I found out that her friend (Jessica) sent her the following conversation. Can you guys read it and tell me if my ex-girlfriend lying to me when she said her and Jessica were getting more followers for her, because the way her friend said that seemed like she didn’t know anything?
    Please read the conversation below and tell me what you think, thank you so much guys. x
    ——————————————————–
    her friend:JOE FOLLOWED YOU

    her friend:HAHAH

    my ex:Haha I know happened a few days ago

    my ex:Haha(:
    they used to cheat through facebook together, so if she’s following her ex on twitter they can communicate, i was scared so i panicked.

  • Ed D:

    well me and my ex girlfend broke up a log time ago and her and her new boyfriend have been dating a long while now. she tells me that she still loves me sometimes but she cant break up with this guy, but its like shes hot and shes cold, she tells me that she loves me and all of that, having me feel like im on top of the worls. next thing you know she never brings up the subject, never talks about it and she like never responds to my i/m’s on aim. i miss her so much and like i would be able to let it go and move on if she hadnt told me that she still loves me but shes just pain old cold now and i just want her bad. summers almost here and i think that would be a good time to hang out with her over the summer, plus its my senior year im in 8th grade shes in 7th, so this will probably be the last time i;ll see her again. so i want to hang out in the summer with her, but theres also a summer job i can take and it pays $150 a week, thats alot of money to kids, and the application is due like in 2 weeks or a week and a half, so i want to figure out how can i hang with her in the summer or convince her to hang with me, because i she doesnt wanna hag i could take the summer job and if she does wanna hang we’ll hang. but i cant take a chance with missing the application and hoping she’ll hang out with me. its one of the other. i need to know now!. so help please ~”sorry for the long story”~

  • Balla:

    OK this is a seriouss question so unless ur planning on answering honestly please go away. ok to begin with i met this girl 2 years ago and to me she is the most amazing girl in the world. for the first 6 months i new her we were just friends i was kinda fat back then and she often made fun of me cuz of that. so i started working out like really hard every type of exersize u can think of. and within like 4 months to be honest i looked really good like actually toned, 130 lbs of muscle is how my doctor put it who was shocked by my new look. ok so eventully she got a bit more into me and i asked her out. she sed yes we broke u after a month in like may. but by august we were dating again and she was like REALY in love with me and it lasted for like 3 months a nd by december she no longer texted called or skyped. and on dec 23 she just plain out sed : im not mad at u, i just dont like you like that.
    ok so heres the situation:

    its been a year since she was really in love with me and nowadays we talk she doesnt text that much anymore, but were not the same she ALWAYS teases me and calls me ugly in a funny way or fat, but honestly i know im not cuz every other girl in my school thinks im pretty good looking.
    but i havnt changed at all since last august. and in less than a month im moving to england for a year, but i woudnt mind a long distnace realtionship idk bout her.and shes not like other girls, what most girls considers sweet she doesnt care about. iv written her poems, begged her to come back, even m friends tried to convince her. idk wat to do :(
    ive tried getting over her and for like a month i actally managed, i went out with another girl but i broke up with her cuz she was nothing like my ex. In fact my ex even knew i was dating another girl and still didnt give a crap about it so know what :(

  • kewlflame14:

    So my ex-girlfriend started talking to me again after 4 months of break-up. She basically left me out of the blue for no real reason that I know of after 3 years of what I thought were really happy. She has no been telling me things like, “I’ve ruined everything perfect in my life.” and apologized for everything she has done. She won’t come out and say she wants to get back together, but I can tell she does. Should I even listen to what she has to say? I still have feelings for her but I don’t know if I should act on those feelings. I can’t help but think she will just leave again if we get back together. Any help or comments will help.

  • The Villain:

    We have been together for 4 years and just recently married. My husband has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship. He has never gotten along with her and broke it off very early on. My step son tells people that moms are not supposed to play their children and that his mother never plays with him. Instead of taking him out to play she tells him to play his video games. We have always tried hard to do things together and have fun, taking him outside often for bike rides and to the park to play with other children.
    My step gets upset when we come to pick him up and when he is with us he asks when he is going home. He spends half of every week with us. He complains that he misses his mom which we thought may be because she works a lot. When she calls to speak with him he often hangs up crying saying he wants to go back to his moms house. He recently reveled to me that when he gets in trouble at his moms house she tells him if he does not behave she will send him to his Dads. I’m not sure how to make him once again enjoy coming to Dads house, although once here he usually does enjoy himself.

  • Courtney:

    What would make an ex girlfriend do these things?
    She called me 6 days ago “because she wanted to tell me something funny that happened about her permit test.” I talked to her for like a minute and I told her happy new years and goodbye and i ended the call. She called like 1 minute later telling me the real reason she calledis because ” she wanted to know if it hurts me when I see her.” I said no, i didn’t mind, and then she said it hurt her and that she hopes whoever i find makes me happy.” I said okay, thankyou and then we hung up again. Then 10 minutes later she texts me and says “Has she replaced me that quickly?” I say whos she? ANd she says she thinks im dating this girl or something stupid like that. Then she says she misses my company.

    Why is she doing this now? We went out for a year and she broke up with me like a month ago. The next day in class she seemed perfectly happy and she hasn’t talked to me the last 5 days
    4 hours ago – 4 days left to answer
    I know it sounded mean, but I was mad because for a week she led me on and broke my heart all over again and then kept rubbing it in
    Thanks casey bro, youll definitely get best answer, I just didn’t take her for the type to play stupid games

  • maskills24:

    Ok I dated this girl back in January until April. It was an unusal relationship. But I thought she was a nice girl. I had known her for not even a year. But back in April I broke up with her. Here are the reasons why I broke up with her:
    1.She cheated on me 4 times at once
    2.She insulted me when I sprained my arm on a trip to Chicago and accused me of doing it delibritly so I could get out of getting her something there.
    3.I originally didn’t plan on getting her nothing in Chicago because I was going to get my mom something for her birthday because when I came back from Chicago, it would be her birthday and my girlfriend knew it too!
    4.She stalked my friends and threatened them because she didn’t want them around me
    5.She talked about me behind my back when we dated
    6.She was very boy crazy and even when we were out I would catch her flirting with other people
    7.Found out that she did drugs

    And I broke up with her and she called me that night and after I told her I proved she cheated on me she got nasty with me and told me on the phone she only dated me because she felt sorry for me because i had an elementary school education and no friends and that she was the type of girl who needs more than one man and even one d!ck in her life and if I couldn’t live like that, that I was a loser! And she starts all these rumors about me like that I hit her, abused her, gave her drugs which she had in the first place and I was straight edge, and that I got her pregnant! Well around Prom time she supposedly apologizes to me, then instantly asks the question if i’m going to take her to prom, I remain silent for a few seconds and then she says “God I can’t believe you fell for my fake apology, God your dumber than i thought” and then when I ran for class president she started her rumors again and tried to make me look more like a sexist womanizer because I was running against a girl and it ended up costing me the election. And then over the summer she starts telling some of the school whores that I like them and they will not stop bothering me to this day and its become humiliating to my peers and i’ve lost friends because of it. And her gossip doesn’t stop and now she keeps talking to my friends trying to get them on her side and its been working as her stress causing gossip has lead to me developing anger issues and people are starting to believe her stupid rumors and just last night or a couple of nights ago I had a dream that I murdered her like OJ Simpson murdered his wife and lately i’ve been thinking about killing myself because shes ruining my life and yes I’ve tried talking to her but I don’t know what else to do!

  • Cole:

    Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 5 months, she loved me so much, she always did everything for me and i took her for granted, she wanted everyting with me and i never paid a lot of attention to her, i lied sometimes and she knew it, te last month we only have seen each other 4 times or so because of my school work and then she dumped me, I begged and pleaded for 2 days but she said no, i think she just lost her feelings for me that last month, then I went into no contact and 3 days later she texted me ‘i miss you’ I thought it was a smart idea to let her miss me so I didn’t say much back, i only said ‘thats sweet’ and things like that, so then 2 weeks passed by and i asked her on valentine ‘how are you?’ and she ignored me, then a week later I texted her that I wanted to meet up to say im sorry for everything and she just said no i forgive you, we don’t have to talk no more, she basicly said oke oke i forgive you just because she doesn’t want to meet up. I messed it up completly and i have lost my dignity with her, how can i win this back and show her im okay with the break up and im doing fine? because i came accros like a little dog she knows i want her back, so how do I gain it back? the problem is we never see eachother, only on facebook but I deleted her, again a wrong move… please help?

  • evil chevy:

    We were bestfriends for almost 4 years and last January we decided to get together. At first like any other couple we were all happy and bubbly and then we became comfortable with each other and it soon got to the point where we knew everything about each other (like we didn’t already know before from being bestfriends), but we couldn’t find anything to do really and it just got boring after a while. We argued a lot about the stupidest stuff and then we started having trust issues with each other because of reasons I won’t mention on here. Yes I’m only 16 and people may call it “young love” but I feel that if God shows you someone in your life that’s meant to be it doesn’t matter if you’re only 16 but how mature you act. I focus a lot on school and getting a career but I still keep her close by. We had a lot of issues after the breakup about social media and what not.. typical drama, but I’ve steered clear of it now to be happier and healthier. We broke up back in early February. We tried talking again and we had a lot of issues and it always ended up in fights. I want to meet with her but I feel that the feelings I still have for her will overcome me and I will try to kiss her or something. God’s telling me that the feelings are mutual so I’m gonna go with that. I wanna wait till after high school to date her again to save us drama. I’m a Junior and she’s a Sophomore. They say if you let something go and it comes back it’s yours. Is it meant to be? Please no negativity.

  • Jeremy Xargor is my gamertag:

    my ex girlfriend is bipolar. she does not take meds. we have broken up before and she has come back to me after a couple of months. she breaks up when she when she goes manic.

    we broke up after 3 years of dating.

    she now has a boyfriend. she started datin him 2 months after we broke up. they have been dating for about 2 months now.

    i was wondering if you think this is a rebound relationship? she has come back to me in the past, i was wondering if you think she will again. i’ve read that bipolar girls always come back to the first love.

    i know it probably won’t work out. i don’t really want her back. i just want to know that she misses me and that she actually did love me. because we barely talked when we first broke up. and i haven’t talked or seen her in about 4 months. this has happened in past break ups.

    she moved on so fast it just hurts cuz i feel like i never meant anythin to her. anyone with advice or experience with bipolar please help.

    and please dont just tell me to move on. i know i have to. it will jsut make it easier if some questions are answered.

  • Salam:

    me and my ex girlfriend have been broken for a long time now and we’ve been always in touch. she has a boyfriend and that’s the reason it’ll be wrong for me to like her but i don’t know if she is playing games with me. when we sit next to each other she puts her head on my shoulder and grabs my arm and we end up holding hands and she Does not pull back, and when that happens its when my feeling toward her comes back. she tells her friends like if she complaining about me but i know she likes it. and she really like her boyfriend. is there anything i can do about it?
    you guys have good responses

  • wwwavid360gamercom:

    I need help dealing with a break up with my bipolar ex girlfriend. We were together for just about 3 years with a few break ups in between. We did love each other very much. But when she had her manic stages she most of the time didn’t want to be around me. She wanted to go out and party with her friends. She lied a lot and talked to other guys a couple times. It was just so hard to trust her. When i confronted her about some things she flipped out totally and made it impossible to communicate. She was very selfish also. She did whatever she wanted to do no matter if it hurt me or not.

    When she was her normal self we had so much fun. We did a lot of things joked around, and the spark was still there. She was very nice and did things for me. During her depression stages is when she wanted me the most. Everytime we broke up she’d hook up with other guys and do whatever she wanted even though she promised me she wouldn’t. She said she loved me the entire time we were apart yet she was acting like she never loved me and hooking up with other guys.

    I have a very hard time understanding why she does these things. We’ve been broken up now for almost 2 months. She acts like she totally hates me and is dating someone else. She never talks to me unless its to get in a fight and she says some harsh stuff like she never loved me and that her new guy is amazing.

    Why is she so sexual? She never seemed to want to have sex towards the end of our relationship but i knew she loved me and liked the sex and she was still attracted to me. But now she goes out and has sex with other guys. Is this the hypersexual side of bipolar during mania? And why does she act like she hates me and that she’s ok?

    She has always come back during her depression stages because she says that she realizes she hurts me and that she loves me and she needs me around. I don’t wnat to take her back because she hurt me so much, but I always seem to give her another chance.

    Help me understand her!!!!

  • Mc L:

    At this point in my life I am terrified, desperate and down right miserable as I should be for this mistake that I might have made. My ex-girlfriend claims that she is seven weeks pregnant with my child. She states that she went to the doctor and took a urine pregnancy test which resulted positive. I myself have not seen the results of this test. When we first thought that she could’ve been pregnant about a month ago I rushed to the store to purchase a pregnancy test which resulted in a negative reading. She says that she is suffering from pregnancy like symptoms such as weight gain and vomiting. I have not seen her since the first time that we tested. Therefore I cannot validate any of this.

    I know for a fact that I do not love her. So I do not think marriage is in the question. However, in the event that she is pregnant and does have the child, what should I do care for it? I know it’s a little late for me making an attempt at responsibility, but I do not want to be another dead beat dad that the world is so full of. Please spare me the berating comments – I know I’ve made a grave mistake. Mainly what I want to know is how other people in a similar situation have coped and carried on with their lives while not ignoring the child aspect all together. Thank you.

  • Death Knight:

    So last night I had a dream that I saw my ex girlfriend of 6 months at a restaurant. (Like a Denny’s or Red Lobster) I tried to shield my kid brother and direct him passed her but I gave in and started talking to her. She seemed to try and not pay me any attention. Almost annoyed; and she looked different from what I remembered, almost older and a tad bit ugly. (Like an anorexic chain smoker of 40 years look.) It kinda fuzzy but I think I told her that im sorry and that I still loved her and her new Boyfriend who for some reason was Asian appeared. He didn’t say anything just was silent behind her left shoulder. She then began to tell me when I feel the emotional pain, when I cant go any longer when I get so low to the point of me wanting to kill myself, then I will know or understand. O.o I woke up this morning and I was almost late to class. Any help?
    I forgot to say I didn’t even know her new BF and I felt like he wanted to fight me. Hope this helps I guess.

  • Zanto:

    Recently my girlfriend has asked me to invite her to a dinner invitation that my ex-girlfriend and me attend once in a while to chit-chat. The problem is that my ex-girlfriend is more attractive than my girlfriend. What should I do? I am not as embarrass to be with her alone but I am when it comes to introducing her to my ex.
    Ps: I am not being shallow… I am saying the truth.

  • superdork:

    Is it possible to get back together with an old ex-girlfriend? If it is, what can I do and how should I do it?

  • Maggie:

    Well, I have been with my boyfriend for six months now, and he has always been honest with me about him still talking to his ex-girlfriend and how they are just friends, but I found out that he only tells me half of the truth and doesn’t tell me everything. I know for sure the ex wants to get back with him, but he tells me he would never go back with her, he just wants to be her friend because she is not a bad person. I just don’t trust her. How should i deal with this?

  • The Dark Knight:

    my ex girlfriend went to england 4 years ago for college and has recently returned. i know this will definitely sound sad/pathetic…but i still kinda have feelings for her. i don’t think i ever really moved on properly, despite trying amazingly hard to. i have a girlfriend now and know that it’s wrong that i’m feeling like this but i seriously can’t help it. the more i see my ex the worse it gets. i was thinking that i should distance myself from her, cause i know that if we become too close again i’ll just go insane. any thoughts/any one who’s gone through something similar?
    thanks

  • Mike:

    My boyfriend’s ex girlfriend sent him wine. He lied and said it was from a friend, but after I confronted him he said they were from his ex-gilfriend and that he didnt have control over it. I was jealous but dissapointed more than anything. It was a trust issue for me. What do you guys think? Should I forget him?

  • skillz:

    Hi, everyone

    Please, i need to buy a guide on “how to get my ex girlfriend back” ebook, that has great advice in getting back with my ex girlfriend…

    I’ve search every corner online, and i still can’t find one, that will back girlfriend. because, i’ve spent so much money, closed to $250 on every book, i come across online, only to find out, is a junk…

    Please, anyone here with useful tips on getting back with my ex girlfriend advice & BEST EBOOK on the top topic “how to get my ex girlfriend back”, will be very MUCH APPRECIATED…

    GOD bless you ALL!

  • John:

    Ok so here is my dilemma, when i broke up with my ex-girlfriend (we didnt go out long but knew each other a while) we didn’t speak much for a while, then we started talking again, but not like it used to be (which i expected) but one day she told me something kinda…but said it in code…and then i asked her straight up about this problem (which i do not want to disclose) and she said she isn’t saying anything but i didn’t understand why she was dropping little hints if she didn’t want me to know?
    But anyway i was concerned about her and one of her friends i go way back with, she’s a really good friend so i went to her and told her i was concerned about her etc… because i didn’t want to just ignore it cause i would be a shitty person if i did & if anything happened to her i would never forgive myself knowing i could of done something about it but my friend already knew about this problem and told me what it stems down to (her ex boyfriend before me) and then i told her (my ex) that i was worried about her etc.. and that i told her friend i was also & my ex then text me saying she hates me more than shes ever hated anyone and that i’m scum etc… this confused me because i just want her to be ok and now we are not friends and don’t speak at all as see told me to never ever speak to her again (it’s been about a month and a half)

    and recently i have just found out that they may be seeing each other again, and i have to say i wasn’t happy given all he has done to her (cheating on her and going away with that girl whilst seeing her/calling her fat/telling her she needs to lose weight/dissing the way she looks/telling her his then girlfriend after her is going to beat her up) and i just can’t seen to understand how she could give this piece of shit another chance?

    but my personal opinion is that she is just around to occupy him while he is home for the summer or till something better comes along and then he will blow her off when he goes back to uni and i just dont want to see her get hurt like he did the first time again but i really believe she will and i dont know what to do because i don’t want to see her get hurt like she did the first time.

    advice please..

  • Brian:

    i met my ex girlfriend yesterday and everything was okay until she started touching me and holding my hand and hugging me from behind, i assumed she still liked me and she gave me the hints as im still in love with her, later on she says ‘ i just want to be mates with you’ then i kicked off, whos fault was this ? shes clearly leading me on when she knows i still like her

  • have faith:

    please tell me how i can get my ex girlfriend back. any tips? any steps? please tell. Plus she has another boyfriend so i dont know what to do:((((((((((((((

  • NC Baller:

    I was fascinated with the story of the poor girl who is a dentist and got revenge on her ex-cheating boyfriend that dumped her by removing all of his teeth. As wrong as it is to mutilate someone and damage someone physically for life, this creep cheating boyfriend was bound to know that visiting his ex-girlfriend dentist for a “toothache” was extremely insensitive and I think he did it purposely to antagonize her and put her “on the spot”. I heard from some accounts that he even callously brought his new girlfriend into the dentist office with him. Surely, she can plead not guilty on account of it was a crime of passion and maybe she can prove to a jury that she was abused by him in some way. I’m a woman who’s been cheated on and if I were on a jury, I’d have a hard time not feeling for this poor girl, even if she did purposely remove all of her cheating boyfriend’s teeth. Was this female dentist wrong to do this? For certain, her ex was so wrong to think he could just stroll in to the dentist office of the girl he did wrong for a toothache. He did that purposely, so he sort of asked for whatever she did to him, right? See “Dentist pulls out all of her ex-boyfriend’s teeth after split”

    http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/dentist-pulls-her-ex-boyfriend-teeth-split-210829769.html

  • Zanto:

    Alright guys and ladies I know this might be a bit long but please find it in your heart to hear me out…

    Best answer will be chosen and I will give out points if I can…

    Basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. We’ve known each other since high school for 4 years and dated for 2 and a half years. We’re now both at the same college. We’re also currently friends (Or we’re trying our best to be)

    Around 4 months ago I introduced my ex-girlfriend to my ex-friend which I regret doing to this day. Now at the time my ex and I were having problems and my ex-friend was also having problems with his girlfriend. To make a long story short basically my ex and my ex-friend ended up kissing each other and my ex spending the night at his apartment (There was no sex or so my ex said)

    Despite all this, my ex says that she still loves me and she regrets what she did to me. She said that she wanted a future with me only and that she only had a crush on my ex-friend. Also, she said that she doesn’t trust him because my ex-friend basically wanted more with my ex while still dating his girlfriend at the time.

    However, despite all this, my ex girlfriend still talked to him when he talks to her first through text messaging or AIM. I’ve told her a lot of times that I was a little bit jealous and uncomfortable with her doing this because I got hurt with what she did to me before. Unfortunately, she tells me that she doesn’t want to fight my battles for me since I don’t talk to my ex-friend anymore and that she doesn’t have a problem with him and that’s why she is still friendly with him. He’s the only person I don’t want her talking to but she still does.

    Yesterday, my ex-friend called my ex and told her that his girlfriend just dumped him which pisses me off because he also asked where my ex-girlfriend and I stood right now. Was that rude? She literally shrugged off his question and changed the subject. He also kept literally asking what she was doing even though his girlfriend just dumped him earlier that morning.

    Today, my ex-girlfriend and I got into a fight today because I told her that I felt uncomfortable when she talks to him. Basically, she burst into tears when I told her that if she couldn’t do it then I wouldn’t trust her with bigger things because this is ridiculous. That’s when she kicked me out.

    I feel really down about this and I don’t know what to do. Was it right for me to be jealous? Does my ex-girlfriend still care about me even with all those things she did? What should I do now? What will happen later? I don’t want to leave her because I’m still very much in love with her…

    If you can analyze each paragraph for me it would be greatly appreciated

    -Broken-Hearted Man

  • stingerms:

    I like my ex girlfriend a lot. My ex girlfriend and I haven’t been together for about 4 years now, but we’ve been friends ever since. The reason we broke up, is because I was to” shy”, as she put it. But anyways, what’s a good way to get back with her? We’ve always liked each other since we broke up, but I never thought about asking her out again , until now. I can honestly say I can picture marrying this girl. She’s beautiful, smart, educated, loyal, and has a good personality. She’s also attends church, like myself. Anyways, I’m supposed to hang out with her New Year’s Eve, and I was thinking about maybe asking her out then. Any comments, suggestions, feedback would be much appreciated. Thanks!

  • Ssshhhh Im becoming aroused:

    I love and miss my ex girlfriend of two years soo drastically I can hardly function. We have been broken up for 3 weeks today and I know she still loves me. I hurt her so badly but she said we could get back together someday. I have been suffering from grief and depression every single day so badly. We still talk minimally usually about once a day. At first we talked a lot and even still hung out. Last night a friend of ours asked her whats going on with her and I and she said she doesn’t know. She said she still loves me and misses me but she is enjoying her self now that she is single. She told him that she isn’t interested in seeing anyone else. She said she is sick of driving me to work ” I don’t drive” and paying for two people cigarettes. I completely understand that and maybe I didn’t show her how much I appreciated those things. I do know that at work I get a higher wage than she does. I also have nothing to show for it because i truthfully spent every penny I made on her. I actually owe her money because she would pay for things i offered to buy for her when I didn’t have any money. She would pay for them and I would actually pay her back for it. She was by FAR the best girlfriend Ive ever had and I really really don’t want to loose that. I know what I did was wrong but my friend said she doesn’t seem all that up set about what happened anymore and that she just enjoys being free and feels like she doesn’t have to drive me around and buy me things anymore. Please if someone could tell me what to do I would REALLY appreciate it. thank you

  • Franklin Bluth:

    I need help, i cant figure out why i keep having dreams of my ex girlfriend, im married and have a one year old little girl, were going tho some tough times with money and our relationship is pretty weak right now. Could that be the reason why im dreaming of my ex? If anyone has an answer or a thought of mind why im dreaming of her plz help, oh and this hasnt only happen onces i have dreamed about her plenty of times, there never bad we always go out on dates and things like having fun but the weird thing is she know im married and i have a kid in my dream but she still talks to me and kisses me acting like were a couple, well can someone help me plz??

  • Sophia C:

    Is there any possible chance that an ex-girlfriend who might still like me will take me back? She broke up with me because nasty rumors got started. (I’m in middle school)

  • Mark M:

    Okay. Me and my girlfriend(ex) just broke up yesterday. She broke up with me because she thinks that it’s too awkward between us. We talk ALOT by text and AIM, but we don’t talk in person as much as we should. I knew this was going to be a problem. After 2 months of not doing anything about it, i finally decided im going to talk to her a lot and hug her more. So yesterday at my track meet, i was planning on telling her she did great in the meet and give her a hug and a kiss goodbye. I get my backpack and try to find her. She found me first and said:
    Hey, i think we should just be friends.
    I said alright. Because i didn’t wanna make a scene or anything.
    The next day, my friends were yelling at her sayin” you made a terrible mistake” and stuff like that. Then one of my friends talked to her and she said that she didn’t sleep at all that night. What does this mean?? Does she want me back? And its much more awkward now than before when we were together…Please how can i get her to want me back if she doesn’t already???Im sad…Help

  • Dr Hank:

    To make a long story short… My ex girlfriend decides to come to this party a buddy and I were throwing. She has a new boyfriend, soo this made it really akword for me. (Although I did have a girl with me as well) The party was a complete success and everyone was having a good time. Later on in the night the girl I brought decided to talk to my Ex and try and smooth over everything. She acts my ex all these questions and tells her “Obiviously if you came out to his party, you still like him and have feelings for him and you are trying to make make him jealous by getting a rebound guy.” She doesn’t say anything and starts to cry. I just dunno what to do!? I still love her… We went out for about 1 year and 3 months. I emailed her and told her I wasn’t mad at her and that I hoped she had fun at the party. She never said anything back and I have noooo idea why!?
    Well ya see my buddy told her she could come… Because he didnt want to say no to her. She came and acted an ass to make it know that she was there and that I knew she was. Later, the girl I brought confronted my ex and asked her all these questions. Which made her cry. I tried to stay cool, but I was drunk and told her I didn’t wanna deal with this bull at MY party. I just wanna know why my EX got upset when the other girl her told her you still have feelings for him dont you? Because we were all standing there. All of us… The new guy and the new girl I brought.

  • Jason:

    i have a ex girlfriend but i cant get over her cuzz i really love her,we both have strong feelings 4 each other but she said that she doesnt really need a boy friend….wat should i do????

  • Matthew:

    My boyfriends ex girlfriend is practically best friends with his older sister,
    and very close with his mum and they talk all the time.
    I’ve had massive issues with his ex as she has been very schemey in attempts to get him back.
    I find it awkward to bond with his family now.
    Ive been with him for 9 months now
    Any advice???
    5 minutes ago – 4 days left to answer.

    I really want to bond better with his family but i don’t know how to go about it. They are closer with his ex.

  • steve:

    I love my ex girlfriend ever but she broke up with me.What are other ways to win her back..

    Please help..I really need your advice.

  • Benihana:

    Why did my ex girlfriend randomly text me? We broke up a while ago and I haven’t talk to her since. I deleted her number so I then i got a text from a number I didn’t know and I looked at my recent calls and it was her number. But why would she text me randomly? All she said was “Heyy . ” I don’t know if I should respond to this because I moved on in a better and happy relationship.

  • floydian8717:

    I just had the craziest dream about an ex-girlfriend. I will give a little background about the relationship. I dated this girl about 10 years ago, we broke up after dating for 2 years (I thought we were going to get married), but we were on-again-off-again for the next 3 years (she moved out of town and we would connect when she would come back to visit). Then I started a new relationship and I told her we should not talk anymore.

    In my dream I was in a restaurant (something like an Olive Garden) and I was getting out of the restroom going to my table. At the table there was my ex-girlfriend, her mother, and her father (he passed away right before I started dating her). I heard them talking (I can’t remember what they were talking about) and as I got closer my ex-girlfriend started to look down at her food and would not make eye contact with me. I sat down in the chair next to her and I asked what was wrong but she started to scoot her chair away from me. Her father started some small talk about how filling the macaroni was and I nodded in agreement. But, I was more concerned about why my ex-girlfriend wouldn’t talk to me and why she keep scooting her chair away little by little. After that I just woke up.

    This is not the first dream I had about my ex-girlfriend in the 5 years we stopped talking. I’ve had dreams about her sitting behind me in a move theater with another man (can’t see the man’s face) and I turn around to talk to her but she just ignores me. I’ve had another dream similar to the movie one but this time at a club and she is in a dark corner sofa snuggling with a man (can’t see the man’s face here either) and I try to talk to her but she ignores me.

    I really would like to have some grasp on what this dream means. I dream about an ex like a lot of people, I guess there are unresolved issues and mistakes that we would like to fix, and I get that. What I don’t get is why did I dream about her parents, especially her father that I have only seen in pictures – talking to me while my ex ignores me.

  • Pacman:

    Me and my now ex-girlfriend broke up like 2 days ago because she didn’t love me anymore and she was feeling very guilty for making out with a guy while we were on break. Ever since than it’s like we were faking it, arguing a lot and being very distant. I have been trying to avoid the break up for ages because I unconditionally love her to bits and I still do. I miss her so much.

    So she has always texted back, and I have been trying to act as friendly and “calm” as possible and not sounding obsessed or upset or provoking what so ever. But I have a gut feeling that this won’t make her come back, or love me again. I am really scared that she will just forget about me in a couple of days because she is very sociable, and occasionally gets drunk. Guys are all over her too, it’s not hard for her to get a hook and I am scared shitless.

    Anything I can do or am I just building sand castles in my head that this will sort itself out and we can be a couple again ??
    I meant to say that “So far she has always texted FIRST”

    Dunno if it will make a difference but I am desperate :(

  • _marky_mark_:

    My boyfriend and I have been together officially for 5 months but have dated for 8 months. We are currently around 25 and 26 years old. He has a 19 year old ex-girlfriend who has created big problems in our relationship.

    Two years ago they were friends but turned into lovers (intimatly and were in love). Unfortunatly, the relationship ended because he realizes they were both at different stages of life. Shortly after they broke up, my boyfriend and I met after a month of their break up. They were still friends but once in a while she’ll tell him she loves him and misses him. He tolerates this and still kept her as friend. I struggled with it for a while until New Year’s Eve she called at 2 a.m. I was next to him and he flips his phone and states “Oh…it’s Sunny!” He then went back to bed. When he realized how it affected me he told her not to keep in touch with for the meantime. She called and yelled at him and was really upset. He assured me that it was over.

    Two weeks ago my boyfriend bumped into her at the university. They talked and she had a boyfriend. But within a few days she calls and told my boyfriend she wants to break up with her boyfriend. My boyfriend even gave her advices but went back on his words. I was very upset and told him how I felt. In front of me he called her and ended the friendship, deleted the number, and assured me how much he loved me and he doesn’t want to see me cry. After he did that, she wrote him a message on facebook stating, “Well…fine! Be a looser! You’re not invited my graduation, family gatherings, any special of that sort. Plus, good luck with conquoring your fears! I can’t believe you’ve became a jerk and especially someone I love as much as my family.” It was last night my boyfriend finally realized why it affected me so much because his ex wasn’t over him and expected them to be together. He deleted her profile and assured me it’s over for real.

    I trust my boyfriend. I need to know if me being upset was alright. I mean I didnt’ want to make it hard but I’ve been so patient with them being friends and understood their past. I do have the right to express my feelings, right? To make sure he understood me? Sometimes I feel his feelings still linger around her. However, I need to really get over it and try to make things better for him and me. I love him so much but I’m always worried what this ex would do to him if I’m not next to him. I told my boyfriend if she was a true friend, she would have respected him and his decisions and be happy that he is happy. But she came back at him in a rude way. What can I do to get over this whole drama? I’m always afraid she will do something to jeopardize my relationship with him.

  • Hayden:

    i broke up with my ex girlfriend, because we werent talking that much it seems like everything was starting to die, we dated for only 2 months..

    it’s been 3 weeks since the breakup and ive already tried twice to get her back.. the first time was a week after the breakup and she was trying to explain to me nicely that she was over me without actaully saying it.. the 2nd time was a week later on the phone.. We were just talking , laughing, about things

    Today i found out she likes one of her other ex boyfriends and he always tries to flirt with her we’re all on the same school bus so i can see them talking he pretty much uses people to try to talk to her because they dont sit together and she always laughs at what he does usaully.. & When ive been trying for 3 weeks to get her back

    What can i do to get her back?

  • David:

    Okay so I recently became friends with my ex girlfriend again after six months of ignoring each other. I’m 16 and she’s 15. We dated for only two months when she broke up with me because she saw me more as a friend then as a boyfriend. How can I get her back? =)

  • Cpt Excelsior:

    my ex-girlfriend and i desided to stay friends after we broke up as she wasent ready for a relationship and just wished to be friends for know. one of my friends wanted to hook me up with a girl and suggested that it may make me feel better if i was dating. but i told him i didnt want to but in the end i rushed and asked her out. we are currently dating but i have alot of feelings towards my ex. i have been talking to her and she believe she made a mastake when she broke up with me and that she still cares alot about me. she was one of the few girls i had talked about marrage with and i still care deeply for her. i was thinking about brake up with my currently girlfriend as i see it isent fair to her if im thinking about a diffrent girl when im dating her. should i brake up with my current girlfriend?

  • mmminja:

    would girls mind if im still friends with my ex girlfriend? Theres really nothing left between us, but we both decided that we have been together too long to just drop each other completely. She is a hairdresser and she still cuts my hair also. So would a new girl understand that i still wanna be friends with her?

  • Duke:

    Hello yahoo anwers. Got a quick question. It involves still having thoughts about an ex girlfriend.

    My ex broke up with me over a year ago after a 2 year, drama filled relationship. I haven’t seen her or have spoken to her in over a year. And I believe she is still with the person she started dating right after our breakup. In hindsight, it was for the best. My life has a lot less drama, and though I am still single, other aspects of my life have fallen into place, which probably wouldn’t have happened if i was still with her. She had a very different disfunctional upbringing, whereas I had a very traditional upbringing. I state that only to say that is probably what contributed to a lot of our differences (Her mom had 4 different kids with for different men, none of which he had relationships with, etc. and just used the guys as a means to get by). I felt used a lot in our relationship. Anyways, around this time of year is when the biggest arguments came up. Two years ago around Halloween, she betrayed me so bad I started seeing a therapist. A year ago is when our final breakup happened, right after we got back together to find out she was seeing other people and seeing me at the same time, and lying about it.
    I just want her out of my head. I have to admit, I am still drawn to her beauty, or at least, what I remember of it. Help.

  • shahrukh:

    So, if a guy is frequently saying “oh, my ex-girlfriend did this” or “oh yeah my ex texted me” around you, but not directly to you, what does that mean. He always says ex, never says oh this girl i used to date, and he never says their name.

    Is he hinting that he’s single, or does he really just like to mention his exes a lot? haha What do you think?

    thankyouverymuch! (:

  • Dark_LovexXx:

    Me and my ex girlfriend broke up two days ago,we had been arguing a lot lately because she found out about me lying to get about things such as me drinking with my friends,and keeping stuff from her that she found out later, she said she can’t trust me,I don’t blame.her for leaving,we still talk on the phone and text each other,we’ve been together.for 6 months and.I’m deeply in love with her and she.said she still loves me too but right now were only friends because I’ve hurt her so much, I’m willing to do anything to get the love of my life back, what can i do?
    I also told her I was determined to earn her trust back and.she said only time will tell,after she said that she said your.single.you can do what you want I told her.I enjoy.the relaxed non drinking lifestyle I’ve been living as of late,she said she wishes.I had realized that months ago…is there any hope?

  • cardskid22:

    So I’ve been with my girlfriend for 7 months now and my ex girlfriend just texted me after not talking to me for months telling me she misses hanging out with me and more things like that so I told her about how much I love my girlfriend to make sure she doesn’t try to get back with me, I really doubt she would but just making sure. So as soon as I started talking to her I told my girlfriend that I was because if I want her to trust me I think she should know something like that. She got very angry, not at me but my ex for trying to hang out with me. Me and my ex were very good friends and our relationship only lasted 3 months so I don’t she anything wrong with seeing her again. I want my girlfriend to be as happy as can be but it would be nice to see someone I hadn’t talked to for a while. Do you think it would be alright for me to see this girl? My girlfriend knows how much I hate people that cheat but she thinks my ex will try and I guess turn me on or something, I don’t really know. I want to here what you guys think about this because I would never ever do anything to ruin what I have with my girlfriend now.

  • LN13:

    me and my ex-girlfriend are really close, ive tried getting over her but i just cant do it, every time i see her i get this amazing butterflies feeling in my stomach that i have never felt with ne 1 else. she says that she really really likes me but only as a very very good friend, and also she has told me that she has a crush on one of my mates!!! i think its to late to try and get her back now so has anyone got any tips to help me get over her (ignoring her wont work before any1 ses it coz shes in all of me lectures)

    thanks you xx

  • Hayden:

    So here is my dilema…. my ex girlfriend broke my heart not once but twice over two years of dating. Cheated on me, lied to me, etc., really bad stuff.

    Anyways… now i have a new girlfriend the nicest, caring, loving girl in the whole wide world and i couldnt picture myself without her. However, on a daily basis i am having dreams with my ex girl friend either we are together or apart or we see each other or we get into a fight, then i wake up and thank god i am no longer with her.

    Can someone please suggest something i can do to stop thinking or dreaming about this?

  • kass9191:

    Okay so like i was with my girlfriend for 3 years and it was amazing! but we broke up like 8 months ago and every day i think about her wondering what she is doing and all that stuff she was also my first real love but im now with a girl who was my best friendd when i was dating my ex but i cant love my girlfriend because i love my ex btw im 16 and my ex is 15 and the other day she messages me and BAM i fell straight back into love with my ex and like i dont know what to do its stressing me out and depressing i really dont know how longer i can live like this my ex hates me she wishes me dead she told me.. i still think she is the one for me no matter what she dose i cant stop my love for her..

  • colingrillo:

    My boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend is being really kind of messed up. My boyfriend says im acting childish if I’m rude to her. She constantly asks me prying questions and I have to pretend to be her friend. She asks me what would happen if my boyfriend left me and starts dating a friend of mine. She asks me prying questions like what are his pet names for me, what are my pet names for him and the like. What do i do to get her to just leave me alone?
    We love each other and having been dating 4 months. The ex only recently came up to us because she just switched to our school. they dated FOUR years ago.

  • Miguel M:

    my ex girlfriend just dumped me… :(

  • Mak Sultan:

    OK So ayear ago i broke up with my ex girlfriend my me and my ex girlfriend are best friends now and we have been for awhile now
    and then this is when my friend now comes in so i hang out with my ex girlfriend still but where just friends nothing more nothing less and today my girlfriends best friend tells me it makes her mad and makes her feel sad when i hang around my ex
    but i hang out with my girlfriend know so much more and i care about my girlfriend more then anything but she gets sad about me hangin with my ex what should i do about it
    but as im saying i care about my ex like a brother nothing more

  • Brendan O:

    Me and my ex girlfriend were together for 5 years. Recently, I broke up with her as I just couldn’t see us together anymore in the future. My feelings for her became lesser. I did not want to drag her along anymore. Furthermore, my parents did not like our relationship. Even after break up,we still maintained contact as she was not accepting the break up well. I just wanted to let her down softly. Recently, I went out with a girl. I lied to her that I wasnt as I did not want to hurt her. Unfortunately she found out. All of a sudden, she became angry and hated me. She accused me of lying. In fact I could do anything as me and her were no longer together. N she also said that she wanted to exact revenge. I am feeling a bit frightened as Im really uncertain what she can do.

    1) Am I wrong in this situation? Is she the one that is overreacting?
    2) Whats the worst revenge she can do as I’m afraid the girl I’m going out with will find out.

    Thank you.

  • Lasagna delivery guy:

    i broke up with my ex girlfriend before winter break and she was really upset. I realized how much of a mistake i made 2 weeks later and really wanted her back. She thought i was playing games with her and she hooked up with one of my friends and that had us not talking four about four months. Recently we have been talking over the phone and we are back to being friends and we are over all the sh*t that happened between us.

    I asked her to come over and watch a movie at my house the other day bc i really like her a lot still and she was cuddling with me a lot like old times. I kissed her and she said she was afraid to kiss me bc she felt like she would get reattached and get hurt again. The next time we hung out alone at her house i brought up that this brings back a lot of memories, and she turned around and kissed me. Even though it seems like we are back to hitting it off, she still seems a little different. Like she tells me she has too much hw to hang out one night but for some reason i feel like she just doesnt want to hang out with me. Maybe I am thinking about it too much but i really like her and want to get back with her. Should I let it play out and not talk to her so much or should i call and text her everyday letting her know im interested? help me out ladies

    - i know its long my bad

  • Andre:

    this guy i’ve been seeing for 9 months has these wierd issues with this ex-girlfriend of his they still hang out sometimes and it’s getting on my nerves. this is the third time i had problems with her and he won’t tell her to stop. she would call me from his phone or answer his phone saying hello and then hang up she would say “oh i’m his girlfriend” and then she’ll call me sometimes and say “oh i’m his wife” and then hang up the phone. i confronted him about it and he say oh don’t worry about her she does that because she’s jealous of u and she wants to start trouble. i know that ex’s do things like that because my ex did it to him but that was only once & i stopped hanging out with my ex. the thing that is bothering me is that he was supposed to be with me last night and she ended up with him and he said “oh she popped up unexpected sorry about that”. she won’t mess with u anymore trust me i have stopped her this time u will never hear from her or see her again.
    i called him a few hours after our argument and now he has an attitude with me. am i wrong for getting mad at him? i’m tired of her and he’s being soo nice about it like it’s cool.

  • Adam:

    So recently,I’ve been in a situation in my life where I’m wondering if ex girlfriends have the upper hand more so then the girlfriend. Like,if a guy and a girl break up and she decides to come back into his life even though he has a girlfriend what do you think would happen? He would go with the ex he had more history with or stick with the new girlfriend? The situation is the guy and girl broke up because like there was honest issues but they were so in love. The girl moved away to a different country then comes back. Do you think he’ll leave his girlfriend for his ex who he was madly in love with?
    When I say upper hand I mean more of an advantage. An advantage to getting the guy back.

  • Squall Leonhart:

    me and me ex boyfriend were friends three years prior to the start of our relationship. we broke up because i was going to highschool and he was still in middle school because hes a year younger. we told each other we would still be friends but its hard when you dont see each other everyday. i miss him as a friend but he might think i want him back but i have moved on. whenever i text him or something he keeps it short and never keeps it going for long. he also has a new girlfriend. so guys, in general do u dislike all your ex girlfriends or were you able to repair your friendships?

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